Celina

You know, the first BM dresses I picked out were $150 ea. Then I thought, are they ever really going to wear these again? Probably not. My MOH & BM are both moms with kids and families, so it seemed like kind of a waste. I figure for $36.50 they can at least wear the dresses again. It just didn't seem right spending so much on stuff to wear for only a few hours. I'll probably give my veil to my daughter in hopes she uses it for her wedding, if not, overall it is not a lot of money to be out. I'd rather spend the money on something else. OH - I did spend some $$ that my FI doesn't know about....I hired a limo to pick us up from home and take us to the airport when we leave and return from our trip!

Quote: Originally Posted by LC_Rachel What! That's crazy. You should buy your veil through occansey.com to save even more. I love my veil from them! Congrats on finding great deals! Thanks Rachel, My dress is kind of plain, so my veil is more ornate with scalloped edges and embroidery all along the bottom. I didn't feel like a bride until I put the veil on. The scalloped edges mimic the scalloped lace on the bodice of the dress. Then when I tucked the flower behind my ear with the veil on I was like ...WOW...Senorita! I looked like the Mexican/Latina bride I always dreamed of when I was a little girl. That was my "A-Ha" moment.

I'm going to go with #3. You look really good in it and not many can pull that one off!

I just realized that I have bought my dress, my flowergirl dress and my MOH and BM's dresses, flip flops and hair flowers for all for less than $200! I am in shock! I guess that I am a super sales hound too! I have a hard time posting pics so I did the attachment so you all can see what I got. I am patting myself on the back for this one! We are all going shoeless for the ceremony and are decorating flip flops to wear for the reception. I bought flowers on Saturday that I need to add clips to so we can wear in our hair. I haven't gotten my veil yet but will be wearing a flower in my hair with the veil. (my hair will be up) Believe it or not, my veil costs $180 - almost as much as all of the other stuff! Is that nuts or what! Wedding party clothes.doc

I wasn't going to buy them at first. I felt so guilty asking them to pay for something that they probably wouldn't wear again, then Monday I found these cute dresses on line for $36.50 each, so I bought them each a dress. (my MOH and BM). Since my daughter is my flowergirl, I bought her dress as well. PLUS I bought them all flip flops that we are going to decorate. So yes - I guess I bought them all their entire outfits! I didn't intend to... it just happened!

BEAUTIFUL - They look AMAZING! WONDERFUL JOB! YAY - these came out so great! I LOVE them!

I am doing my welcome letter on Vistaprint.com On the cover a welcome from the families. On the inside a timeline and some activity information. On the back a list of guests names "James & Erika Hatcher", etc. with the header that says "Contact Info" where people can write down everyone's room numbers in case they want to call. I haven't figured out anything else to put in it, but sometimes you can catch a freebie newsletter on vistaprint or you can use a coupon code for a discount.

Okay - the invitation I found that I want to use is kind of like this..(Kind of). It is on www.exclusivelyweddings.com Go to the "Extrordinary Love with Swirling Navy Flowers" invitation. I have been looking like crazy to find something like the invite you have above from White Aisle but none were in our price range. These ones were VERY reasonable. See what you think.

When I read the thread name I laughed out loud! My fiance has NO RYTHM EITHER! HE EVEN suggested that we practice at home before the wedding. I totally agree. Maybe you can practice at home to get him to loosen up some. Turn on some music, light some candles...it could be fun!

Becks - doesn't it suck to have to deal with step families! I have the same with my dad and his wife's kids. My suckey thing today is that my sister is leading me on saying she has to talk to me about something and she won't say what it is. She said she wanted to go out to lunch and talk. My suspicions are that it's about the wedding. Every time I bring up something wedding related, she makes NO Comments about anything. Her attitude about going to the wedding is "God willing we'll be able to make it". I wish she would tell me whatever it is she has to say and let me get on with it! She is totally stressing me out! If she can't come, then she can't come. Yeah I'll be disappointed, but I'll have to get over it.

Quote: Originally Posted by carly Damn, Rach, that's the best "waht makes you happy today" yet!! I got happy just reading it! Me too! I am so excited for you! I'm happy because it's Wednesday and I don't have to cook dinner on Wednesdays! YAY! I agree with Carly .... after today the rest of the week is gravy!

Oh, That is so sweet! What a guy!

Quote: Originally Posted by carly Do you need BDW to start giving him some orders? "Celina needs this Saturday to herself. In fact, Celina needs 1 Saturday per MONTH to herself!" Ok, I realzie that's probably a lot to ask since you do have two children, but a few hours to yourself isn't unreasonable. Thanks for the laugh! You know...after work I came home and played outside with my little guy. The sun did wonders for my mood! I killed the bee that flew into the house and freaked my daughter out (earned my supermom points for the day)! I'm going to get in the hot tub in a minute (after a couple of hands of bingo on the arcade) and let my worries go down the drain! Thanks for your help and encouragement today everyone! You guys are such a big help!

Wow...I haven't read this whole thread but way to go for standing up to them! Sometimes people are so inconsiderate in the things they say. They don't think of your feelings at all. Good for you for saying thanks but no thanks!

Quote: Originally Posted by carly I would say that the 1st 9 months or so of us being engagement we fought like crazy. I even posted a thread similar to this one. I got lots of repsonses and some great PM's with advice and support. Bascially it all came down to the fact that you DO love him. I think some time apart, some personal time, is what you need. I love me some personal time, which Matt has a hard time understanding, but he is better about it now. That's just it. He has NO CLUE about me having personal time. I called him earlier and told him that I needed to go to the store after work to pay my credit card because I know I sent it out and forgot to put in a check for the bill This would have given me about 1 hour to be by myself. His response, "Well, are you going to come by the house and pick up the baby so I can get some sleep?" I could have choked him! I am working on getting HIM out of the house on Friday night. I'm hoping he stays with his friend and they can go golf on Saturday morning. (His friend lives an hour away so it's better if he just stays there). Then I would have ALL DAY SATURDAY to myself! His buddy is working on it so we'll see what happens. We did talk for a long time on the phone about one of the reasons he is getting on my nerves (the fact that he badmouths my sister). I think we got that figured out. Now if I can only get some alone time without him making me feel guilty I'll be fine.

I don't know how other people do it, but my God I need a break from my FI. Lately any and everything he says to me grates my last nerve. I am so irritated by him it is getting really bad. How do I go about rekindiling that spark? We are getting married in 9 months and I feel like the thrill is already gone. This is SO NOT good. I know relationships are a lot of work, but our lives consist of work, saving money, kids (ages 9 and 2) and catching up on housework over the weekends. I don't know what do do or how to get that lovin' feelin back. Somebody help!

Thanks for sharing! I picked up a white pair for my FI last year for the wedding when they were on sale. I'll pick up another pair - and I got a $10 coupon in the mail! Thanks a bunch!

Quote: Originally Posted by JUSTUSTWO As you can see, you aren't alone! I think that with most big events in our lives, there comes some stress. I too have had the same issues, people who rsvp'd yes & then backed out, family members who complained about the location not being "conveinent for them", family & lifelong friends who aren't coming for various reasons. At 1 point, FI & I were even considering changing our DW from Jamaica to Vegas, just to please our families who were complaining about going to scary/unsafe/too far away Jamaica! We were all ready to cancel & rebook!!!! The bottom line is that you can't please everyone & no matter what you do, someone else is going to complain, the only things/people that should matter are you & FI. As long as you two are doing what you want, how you want, where you want, then no one else matters. It took me venting to BDW to figure that out. So at a time, I didn't feel like it was worth it & was depressed/discouraged. I got through it & now I'm excited & grateful for those who are making the sacrifice to join us. You will get through this too. I agree with Yolanda above. Remember you are not alone and in the end it boils down to you and your FI doing what you want because it is your day. Don't get discouraged. There will be many bumps in the road, just remember you have us at BDW to share it with you and lend an encouraging ear! Take a break from planning for a couple of days and go back to it later on. Sometimes that helps. Take care! Celina

Quote: Originally Posted by Tlseege Personally, we all know she's nuts... but wouldn't it be funny if your FI sent the picture of her to her new husband? Say "Nut Job sent me this picture of herself... but I'm sure she meant to send it to you." I like this idea... I do agree that maybe your FI needs to put her and her husband straight. Maybe if her hubby knows what's going on it will put a stop to it. She is obviously an idiot! Who takes business card pics with a cell phone? Good luck - I hope she stays away. Sometimes people don't realize what they had till it's gone. OH WELL...you live and you learn!

That is a tough one! I would say both! I record Oprah every day - But Ellen is a HOOT! Who in your FI's family gets on your nerves?

OH YARI! It is SO Pretty! Love the bling! It is going to look gorgeous on top of your cake!

Wowie Kazowie! That is one helluva dress! You look so beautiful!!

Yay! They look SO good! I love them. I love your monogram too. Very nice!

Quote: Originally Posted by SoontobeMrsE I'm anxious to hear what others have to say on this one. The people who have outright said they would not be able to come after receiving the initial STD letter, I haven't sent them anything else. Otherwise I have sent all of the info to everyone. By all the info we did an initial "Save the Date Letter". Which was a wedding announcement that had all of the resort info and our TA's info. We sent those out last September for our wedding this November. Last month we sent out a STD postcard. As people tell me they absolutely can not make it, I just cross them off the list and don't include them in future mailings. Not sure if it is right or wrong, but I figure why bother with the cost of postage? Let me correct myself here...we will be sending the formal invite to family members even if they have initially told us they can't make it. (because they are family) - we just quit sending them reminders, etc.

They are beautiful. He did a fabulous job! Thanks for sharing!