I’m so sorry to hear that you are so close to saying “forget it” to your dream wedding. The only advise I can provide is, do what YOU want to do! After that, just go along for the ride, let everyone know what you expect and what you are arranging. Then let them respect your decision or not. At some point you have to not worry about what other people want and are going to do. You cant control everyone so plan your dream and forget trying to accommodate everyone else. Remember families are not perfect, that’s why we love them.