Am I wrong to be upset???
Posted 29 January 2010 - 01:57 PM
So heres the scoop.....
Yesterday afternoon Riley stayed after work in Calgary to meet up with a freind of ours to pick up some supplies for our renos in the basement. He said that they would have a couple of drinks together, he would then go to home depot to pick up another box of our flooring and be home.
Throughout the course of the night I spoke with him a couple of times bc it was getting later in the night. At 8:30pm I suggested that he just stay at his friends house as he already had a few drinks and we were over an hour drive away. He said he was fine and that he would be home around 10:00pm.
At 9:30 he called me again to say that he was not in any shape to drive home. I was like "what, your still there? What happened to being home by 10:00?" and he said that he stopped drinking an hour and half ago, but bc he hadnt eaten really it hit him when he got up. So he was calling to make sure it was okay to stay at his friends house for the night. So up to this point Im not mad or upset bc he doesnt see his friend very often bc we live so far out of town. A little irresponsible, but not too bad. This is where I get pissed off.
So I know that Riley is drunk, which guarentees his friend is smashed too - bc the guy is an alcoholic almost. So I ask Riley how they are going to get home and he says that he is going to leave his truck there and going to ride to his friends house in his friends work van. And I was like - uh no your not...your both drunk, take a cab. If he wants to drive home drunk, fine, nothing I can do about that, but you can take a cab! And we kept going back and forth on this bc of course hes drunk and keeps bringing up all mushy crap that he loves me and he doesnt want me to be mad that hes not coming home to sleep with me and all this other crap. I told him I dont care that he isnt coming home, and am okay with him going to the friends house to sleep. HOwever we are stuck on this cab thing....I told him I would pay for it if he was going to be a cheap bugger. In the end when I asked him for the last time to clarify what he was doing, he said going home with his friend in his van......that is where I said good night and hung up on him.
I was so mad I was almost crying! The only reason I was mad was bc he was being an ass and making stupid decision he wouldnt normally make if he wasnt drunk to ride home with the friend that is also drunk. The friend who just got charged last year with a DUI (2nd one in his life), the guy who just paid off his lawyers fees to take care of his court date this july and worked all this overtime and had no life for a while to pay for. Yet that friend again gets behind the wheel drunk!!! So not only is Riley in jeopardy, but so is everyone else on the road. And bc he doesnt want to pay a cab and also bc he doesnt want to look like an ass in front of his friend, he is going to get into a car, drunk, with another drunk to frive 10 mins down the road. Now that may not seem like a far way to go, but most accidents happen close to home and ANYTHING could happen here.
So Im pissed bc he has a jackass friend, that he is a jackass for doing such a stupid thing and bc that decision he made last night to get in that van, didnt just affect him; that decision he made could have just changed my life too. It could have left me single, or made me choose to be single bc he was put in jail or whatever.....I know he is probably fine and they are both nursing a hang over...but that isnt the point. Oh I am so pissed I could scream!
I still havent heard from him and its now almost 10 am my time on friday morning, and I am assuming he called into work and said he wasnt coming in. So he is probably still sleeping on his buddy's couch waiting for his friend to get up so that he can drive Riley back to his truck.
I dont even know how to approach this when I get home....I dont want to be a major bitch...but I also dont want him to think its okay either. I commend him on making the right decision not to drive home last night...that was good....but that was it!
Oh please help me my fellow BDW's....am I wrong to be mad
Posted 29 January 2010 - 02:28 PM
Everyone makes stupid decisions in life, but wow, his friend seems to make them over and over and OVER!
I think you need to seriously discuss this when you get home.. he will probably admit it was stupid and say he'll never do it again, but that could've really eff'd someone's life up for sure! As you said, either you or some innocent person's life could've been changed forever.
That guy should have his license terminated for good. And to use a work van of all things too... talk about jeopardizing everything he has! What an a$$!
Be strong, get your point across and let us know how it goes!
Posted 29 January 2010 - 02:40 PM
Posted 29 January 2010 - 02:50 PM
Posted 29 January 2010 - 03:00 PM
I'm sure you haven't heard from him because he is shitting his pants lol
He probably knows you are pissed and is scared to deal with it.
Posted 29 January 2010 - 08:38 PM
My Aunt is permanantly disabled because she was hit by a drunk driver. She was the lucky one, though, her husband and baby daughter didn't make it. I have no respect for anyone who drives after drinking, and I'd be angry at FI if he even remained friends with someone who had done that that much less got in a car with them. So please don't feel like you're being a bitch- if anything you should be way angrier.
Posted 29 January 2010 - 10:47 PM
Posted 30 January 2010 - 12:30 AM
when he does come home, ask him how he'd have felt if you told him you were going to get in the car with your drunk irresponsible friend. how he'd feel if he was left wondering if you'd made it home safely or if at all....we don't always realize how our actions affect the ones we love till we put ourselves in their shoes. I hope he gets the message and you'll work it out.
Posted 30 January 2010 - 12:52 AM
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