Holly22

I just got back from my wedding and I thought it was perfect. Everything I ever imagined. I honestly don't know who makes reviews on trip advisor. The resort was very nice. The staff was beyond friendly. I had it right on the beach and it was perfect. They do it off to the side so there isn't too many guests. Apparently a few were watching but I never noticed. I have tonnes of pictures and not one other guest is in any pics. I also saw a couple at the gazeboo and they were wonderful as well. Francelia is a sweetheart. It was everything I dreamed of. I recommend doing the wedding boat for the reception. It made our wedding so much more special. It was private and romantic. If anyone has any questions I will be happy to answer : )

Quote: Originally Posted by hoyt75 Yea I learned to not listen to other brides a long time ago... everyone has a different opinions and expectations of how things should be, I say it's better off to leave 'em to them. Holly - STOP LOOKING AT THE WEATHER CHANNEL! I get myself so nervous b/c the weather kept changing and calling for rain. The weather changes non-stop! They were calling for rain and thunderstorms for our whole trip and we only got a few light sprinkles during our reception. Thanks, thats what the WC says as well. Its just so hard when you see thundershowers everyday! haha I will stop though, thanks I feel better : )

So she would be around 9 months now? ARE YOU SERIOUS? I'm sorry but what baby at her age doesn't want their mommies. By the time your wedding is here she will be a toddler. The difference will be huge. I can't believe your FSIL is being nice about this. If someone in my family said my daughter couldn't be the flower girl because the dress might get stained I would say find someone else. Not to mention the baby might cry? She will be walking by then I'm sure her dad could walk her away so she wouldn't ruin your wedding. She is your neice. I'm kind of shocked you wouldn't want her in your wedding to share that special day. When she is older I'm sure she would love to know she was not a flower girl because she may have stained a dress with a few flower petals. Wow... im sorry but I'm a mother and I just find it offensive.

Hey everyone! I wish I saw this thread a long time ago ; ) I'm gettin married next monday. My main conern is the weather! Everyday it says rain and thunderstorms. For the ladies who have gone already did it rain alot? I'm so nervous.....

Thanks so much! I found it on the website after I put that and forgot to update! She emailed me back as well. I think this is a busy time. I leave this thursday!

I'm so frustrated. I leave in less then a week. I have been emailing the WC and she will not respond to my question. She usually responds in less then two days but this has been 3 weeks and I can't get an answer. I want to know the total cost of my wedding. I will be using travellers checks and I need to know with the add ons. She responed before telling me the cost of the actual package but its the add ons I was asking. This makes me worried that she is unaware now of add ons such as the carribian trio. Does anyone have the recent package prices with the add ons so I can get a rough idea? Apparently the one I was going by from last year has changed.

Thanks for the tips and advice! It helps alot : )

I hate trip advisor. I was so worried at first about my resort as well. I then looked at all the resorts and there is bad reviews everywhere. I don't think you have anything to worry about at all! Everyone will love it. They are going for your wedding so they will be super excited. Unless your guests don't like the sun, white sandy beachs, food and booze then you won't have a problem ; )

I think so many people get nervous about it being perfect. What you have to try and understand is its perfect because your loved ones are there sharing it with you. What makes a great day is those little things that people can look back and smile at. If he does something you can look back and laugh. He is 3! They don't understand what the big deal is, its just another day for them. The last wedding I went to the brides nephew was 3. He climbed under all the isles and was running around. We all still look back and smile. It was adorable. I have a 3 year old who will be the flower girl and a 14 month old who is the ring bearer. To be honest I have NO idea what it will be like. My daughter is shy at times and may not make it down. My son just started walking and is clumsy and will need help. I never once thought it would be bad. I'm pretty laid back but I think you just have to relax a bit.

Thats a great idea! Thanks I would never think of that. They both love chocolate milk so I'll bring some just in case. As long as its cow and safe then I'm happy. I never thought there would even be a difference.

This might sound like a weird question but does anyone know if the milk is the same? I've had a few people tell me its different. I have two children who are 3 and 1. They drink alot of milk! I'm a little worried if its different. Is there anyone who has travelled with babies or toddlers and noticed a difference? Thank you

Quote: Originally Posted by purpleshells OMG! im freaking out!! I feel so disgusting!! I went to do my first dress fitting like 2-3 weeks ago it fit perfectly..like a glove,yesterday i go to do the second fitting and bam.....back crack galore..WTH!! somehow in 2-3 weeks I made a huge butt crack on my back! how could i have been do uggggghh im soo disapointed in myself and disgusted!!! I have 3 weeks to go before i do my FINAL fitting..they said worst comes to the worse theres room to move the zipper over a notch..BUT the thing is, is that IT FIT 2-3 weeks ago.....they did not resize it..it is me........aHHHhhhHH so nowww im hoping that by starving myself, drinking lots of water, and by eating mainly fruits n veggies I will loose 5 lbs? the girl told me at the store that even 3 lbs could do this.... so im hoping to lose atleast 5 lbs.........soo disapointed in myself and embarassed.....feel like crawling in a hole I wish I found this thread a long time ago! I hear you. I just tried mine on for the last time two nights ago and same thing! My arms look HUGE as well. Its a corsett and the back does up but the button on the top won't stay on. I leave in two weeks and have decided to drink only water, fruit, veggies and green smoothies. I have already lost 2 pounds. I also bike for 45 minutes-hour a day. It sucks but it works haha I know its probably water weight but I drink lots of pop and eat salt so if that comes out thats fine. Whatever makes it fit! You have lots of time still to loose 3-5 pounds healthy! Don't worry you will look gorgeous!

I hear you on the freckles. I'm covered. My face looks darker because I have so many. When you get a bit closer you can tell my face is just covered in them. So are my arms and shoulders.

That is one of the worst things I've ever heard. I'm so sorry. I would be going crazy. Report them to anyone you can.

We finally made a choice! Lost together- Blue rodeo

As for flowers I went to micheals as well and made some really nice bridesmaid ones. I couldn't stand the fact that they were $50 US each! I didn't make myself one because I know that one was included. She sent me some pictures of the ones they have and I matched the colours to the bridesmaid ones. I hope it works out! I think I will get my hair done there. I will bring a picture for sure. I'm so bad at doing my own hair.

Quote: Originally Posted by Carish_02 Hey Holly! quetions about the boat: how much per head? limit per group? minimum/maximum is your group the only one present or are you sharing with another group? would love it if you can send me her info.. thanks a bunch!!! Hey her name is Flori and the contact is [email protected] You can also look at the weddingboatpuntacana.com as well. There is pictures and stuff! Its $55 per person. I believe the min is 20. I'm not sure what the max is. I have 26 ppl and we are the only group. We had to send a deposit to secure our spot and pay the rest when we get there.

Quote: Originally Posted by amygirl1169 Ugh, ya my sister is a loud mouth like that too. It's like she thinks if she's louder, she's right or something. When I took her to get her dress altered (the dress I paid for, ran all around town to find, and now taking her for alterations because she's a 27 yr old without a license) she didn't even bring proper shoes to try the dress on, or a bra. Then she yelled at ME, very loudly in the alterations place as to why I hadn't told her she needed to bring these things.... Ugh... it's so tiring dealing with these kind of people... Thats exactly her! The more in the wrong she is the louder she gets. The more they scream its almost like the convince themselves. She is the best at that. Turning things aound in her head so she can justify everything. I'm sorry you have a sister like that as well. That was very kind of you to buy her dress! I'm debating on the shoes! haha ( part of the gift) I hate saying anything to my sister because of what you described. I get so embaressed when she goes in her fits. I try to avoid them at all costs lol

Thanks for letting me vent : ) I keep putting off dealing with the situation further and this helped because I know I have too

Quote: Originally Posted by MDLady Ok, now it makes better sense. I thought that she was just jealous or something but a drinking problem explains the erratic and insensitive behavior. Doesn't excuse it, but at least we know what the problem is. If she is an alcoholic, a violent/loud/rude one at that, I would NOT have her at your wedding at all. There will be booze everywhere! I know that this is really tough but you can't be at your wedding worrying every single minute if she is drinking or not and if she will cause a scene. It's really hard with alcoholics or drug abusers or anything like that.. But you cannot continue to overlook such behavior at your own expense. She needs to learn that there are consequences to her actions. Very sad situation. I just don't want you to have a time bomb on your hands when you are exchanging vows. The problem is she is already paid. My wedding is in a few weeks. That would really cause a huge problem. I think I will sit down with her and explain in person how I feel again and ask her not to drink. She literally just started again from what I hear. Its so stressful

Quote: Originally Posted by amygirl1169 Wow, kinda reminds me of my sister!! Ok, maybe not quite as bad, but incredibly selfish and is completely oblivious to what her duties are supposed to be as a MOH. Since your sis sounds a bit more extreme, I would definitely fire her. You have every right and reason, no one would question your decision!! Just tell her you've decided not to have a MOH or something... or explain how much 'work' is going to be involved on the big day and maybe she'll be relieved... not to mention the MOH speech! That could be a disaster if she has a drinking problem, like you mentioned. Good luck to you!! Yeah I agree I think I'm going to have to "fire her" in some what of a nice way. I want to advoid any extra drama. She is the type who screams and makes a scene even without drinking...

Quote: Originally Posted by Thomasjsgirl OMG - she's an alcoholic. Have you attended any al-anon classes for family? You need support and tools in how to handle her and how best to help her help herself. Ultimately, if she doesn't get help, you know that you will have no choice but to cut her out of your life. In the meantime, are you absolutely, 100% sure that you can trust her not to ruin your wedding? And remember, you and your guests will be stuck with her for a whole week where she could potentially be in your face (and theirs) causing all kinds of grief with no relief! What are you going to do if she becomes unreasonable? Are your parents any help at all? Yes she is. She was really bad last year. She got in an accident and was drunk. She goes to A.A now. I'm really upset because she was doing so good. She now drinks on "special occasions" from what I'm told. I'm pretty upset with my other bridesmaid. She is both of our friend. She has known for awhile she is drinking again but has kept it a secret as well. My parents are afraid of her. She has a really bad temper and screams alot. They kind of avoid saying anything that will make her snap. My mom and her haven't really been talking for awhile. My dad is blind and it makes me mental. He even got mad at me and said I had to be nicer to her because she doesn't have too many people... um shocking I know

Thanks. I know its so hard. I'm at that point. The worst part is she is mad at me for saying anything! How dare I say she is a bad bridesmaid. I didn't even come out and say that. I said at least you can do is try or pretend to care. She took that and went crazy. I'm really worried to be honest. She had quit drinking and was doing good so I was happy. She started again so I can only imagine what its going to be like. The last two occasions have been HORRIBLE! My baby shower she showed up hung over in track pants with her drunk friend and was rude and loud. I was humiliated. The next one she showed up late and hammered to my two year olds birthday party. Started calling people names and was a mess. Once again humiliated. She pretends to feel bad but does nothing to show it. I didn't even give the full story with the deposit at the beginning. After hours of trying to track her down ( she knew the time we were all suppose to meet) I finally did. It was a sunday so she was still drunk from the night before. At least that was her excuse but I don't even know for sure. I called her and she thought she had hung up. She didn't. I heard her go on about how she didn't want to give a deposit because its not like our marriage would last anyways. We have been together for almost 5 years have two children and have a great relationship. So it was hurtful because there was no warrent for it. Ahh I could go on forever. The thing is we had a rough childhood at times. It was always just us two. I have always made excuses for her because she is my sister. Everyone hopes she will grow out of it. She is now 25 and hasn't. Sorry about my rant. Its just so hard to deal with.

I have a situtation. I was wondering what some of you would do. I have 3 bridesmaid for my wedding. My sister is my maid of honour. I didn't ask her to be it was just assumed. I was fine because she is my sister. I was a little nervous because she is very selfish. I knew she would do nothing at all but gave her the benefit of the doubt. I didn't expect much because its a destination wedding. What I got was nothing but problems from her. From the start she caused problems with the deposit. She then started a huge fight with family because she disappeared and at the last minute almost ruined the group rate. From then it just got worse. She has not helped with one thing. My other bridesmaids started planning a little shower and she basically caused a huge fight with them and others that it had to be cancelled. I'm so hurt because she does not care at all. Shows no interest. I understand she is going so thats a bonus. All she is worried about is shopping for dresses and bathing suits and tanning. She has shown no interest in the wedding. Never offers to help or anything. Basically I'm hurt. I called her out on it and she turned it around. Everyone is disgusted with her. No one can believe she is acting like this. The only one not shocked is me which is sad. I'm done. I was wondering if it was bad not to get her a bridesmaid gift? I know that she is spending money to go but she has done nothing at all. I feel like if I get her something I will allow her to think her behaviour is acceptable... What would you do?

I think if she is a good friend and you want her there you shouldn't even question it. How old are her children? Maybe she can't afford to bring the whole family and won't leave her kids for a week? Would she even go if its just her? Maybe money isn't the only issue.