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#51 Sylvie143

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    Posted 25 January 2010 - 02:12 PM


    Honey I am sooo sorry, my heart goes out to you. It really does... I can't believe he would do something like this to you. Hang in there and stay strong.

    #52 Girasole

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      Posted 25 January 2010 - 02:20 PM

      Leslie, I think everyone here feels for you. This is a horrible situation. Only you can decide what direction to take this. This happened to me in my first marriage & my ex husband got another woman pregnant. I decided I wanted it over but not everyone makes that same decision or needs to. Work it out with your husband, my problem was mine never wanted to work it out or even admit he screwed up. If yours is, then start working on things with him. This sucks & it hurts, I'm so sorry that you have to go through this in what should be a fun happy time in your life. *Hugs*
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      #53 baj

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        Posted 25 January 2010 - 02:52 PM

        I am so sorry to hear what you are going through at present and I just hope that you are able to work through and gain his trust again, but he really does need to start being trueful with you and lay all is cards on the table about their relaionship before you can even begin to trust him again and move forward. Hope everything works out and you have the support of your family and friend to get you through this awful time.

        #54 marak

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          Posted 25 January 2010 - 04:02 PM

          Oh dear. {{{HUGS}}}

          Seems like the bases have been covered by previous posters. Be strong and lean on your support network when you aren't. It shouldn't be your burden to investigate his actions or bear any blame in this situation. His actions are inappropriate, and only he is responsible for them.

          IMPO at minimum, consult with a good divorce attorney now. Even if you decide to work things through, better to be advised the best way to document his downfall should he not hold up his end of the bargain. I know it sounds cynical, but if it were me, I'd rather be prepared with eyes open than blinded by love. Protect yourself first. Base your decisions off what you know, not what you want to know.

          Again, here's some more {{{HUGS}}}

          #55 ~*Kathy*~

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            Posted 25 January 2010 - 04:20 PM

            I am so sorry that you are being forced to endure something like this, how awful!

            I'm not going to repeat what all of these wonderful ladies have already said since they are all giving fantastic advice. I just want you to know that we will ALWAYS be here for you and I really, sincerely hope that you and your DH can work it out...whether that means staying together or not, is really up to the two of you, but please look in to counselling so you can at least feel like you've exhausted all of your avenues. Keeping you in my thoughts!!

            #56 roxmysockz

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              Posted 25 January 2010 - 04:37 PM

              Wow so sorry to hear this! Hope everything works out for the best my thoughts are with you - keep strong x

              #57 roo66

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                Posted 25 January 2010 - 05:00 PM

                If women didnt stoop to such low levels men wouldnt have the opportunity.
                I feel your pain after only seven months of marriage my first husband went on a lads night out and met a girl.He met her over a few evenings and then confessed after i sat at the bedroom window waiting for his car to come along the road.
                I was devastated and one of my first thoughts was what would people think.
                Ater many tears he finished it and stupidly we never discussed it again.Three children later he did it again and i wished id not forgiven (never forgotten) him.
                I guess what im saying is be very sure you dont hang on to something that is broken to badly to fix.
                Right now he has left you weak, sad, lonely and i imagine embarrased.(i was)
                The only advice i can give is to try and not tell the world what has happened if you sort things out you wont want anyone reminding you of what has happened.
                Keep as much from your parents as you can they will find it very difficult to forgive him even when you have.
                Surround yourself with TRUE friends and i hope he can prove beyond any doubt that this is a huge mistake. xxxxx

                #58 becks



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                  Posted 25 January 2010 - 05:07 PM

                  Oh sweetie. I'm so sorry you have to go through this. It's so wrong.

                  All the advice you've been given is good. I'd suggest what others have said and explore some counseling. And talk to him. From what you've shared, it doesn't look like it's innocent, and given that he's told you he'd ceased contact with her, there aren't any excuses.

                  But figure out what's really going on and follow your instincts. I hope that there's some way through this for you, but if there's not, I'm glad you found out sooner rather than later.

                  Big hugs!!!!! We're here for you, whatever you need.

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                  #59 Loveisintheair

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                    Posted 25 January 2010 - 06:38 PM

                    I am so sorry! My gosh that is hard. My prayers are with you.

                    #60 damaris

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                      Posted 25 January 2010 - 06:54 PM

                      Wow I'm speechless. Its hard to give advice when we would probably all handle it differently. I for one would be starring in an episode of "Snapped" (JK).

                      No all kidding aside at this point if you have to ask for all these things, passwords, phone #'s etc etc. There is no trust. Trust is key in any relationship. So you have to ask yourself will you be able to ever trust him again? I do believe you should seek counseling and take it from there. Good Luck!!
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