Does this make me a horrible person????
Posted 01 December 2009 - 06:52 PM
Posted 01 December 2009 - 06:53 PM
I think that the other girls have made some good points. Health issues w/ weight gain are huge. Is there any way that you can change eating habits with him so you're doing it 'together'? It sounds like you're super motivated, but there is always something we can do to improve health, whether it's decreasing sodium, carbs, promoting more veggies, etc. (and this coming from the girl that just had a burger from Mc'Ds! Doh!) I honestly don't know what I would have said if he didn't do it on his own, besides the health stuff....
All of these posts came right when I posted!! I forgot to add that sex in a relationship is a huge factor---so hopefully if he starts to improve, and sees that you are more attracted... maybe it will help! I also couldn't have said it better myself- "Motivate him without pointing out his flaws."
Best of luck, keep us posted !
Posted 01 December 2009 - 07:07 PM
It did bother me when my FI expressed his concerns over my weight fluctuation, but in my case it was a lifestyle change I had gone from running 5 times a week to basically doing nothing fitness related. He did say he doesn't care what I weigh, and he doesn't care if I'm not super skinny but just that being healthy and active is important. When he phrased his concerns that way I didn't feel bad about it and I realized that I had been prioritizing tv watching over being active.
You said he will go to the gym if you go with him, so why don't you start doing that a few times a week? It's also a good way to spend time together during hectic schedules and whatnot. Maybe after a few weeks he will start to want to go on his own. The initial motivation to get into a routine is the hardest!
Posted 01 December 2009 - 07:08 PM
Posted 01 December 2009 - 07:16 PM
I never mentioned or cared that he no longer has a six pack and I am cant help but to think of worse things that could happen. My husband never lost any love for me or physical attraction when I broke all my teeth and have a permanently scared face from a recent freak accident.
There are worse thing than a little pudge.
Posted 01 December 2009 - 07:21 PM
I think Alyssa was right that you probably care too much what other people think if you are concentrating on how he will look during your wedding week. He's still the same man inside, right?
Posted 01 December 2009 - 07:44 PM
that being said, i would NEVER tell him that i wasn't attracted to him because regardless of his size, that would make him feel like poop. i'd go at it from the health standpoint.
Posted 01 December 2009 - 07:45 PM
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