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So, interesting story, last night one of my childhood friends (but more of an acquiantance now) popped over unexpectedly. She is getting married in one month (Sept 12th). We were kind of under the impression we might not get invited, as we've known lots of other people that had their invitation two months ago. And I don't get along with her fiance to boot!! So last night (August 8th), she stops by to give us our invitation. The rsvp date inside was August 1st!! She hands me the invitation and says " Oh, I need you to do me a favor, can you mc our wedding?" I kind of stumbled for words and was caught completely off guard. So I said " I don't really know what I'd say at the wedding". And she said, "well we were going to get my step sisters husband but he said he didn't know what to say. And you will know us better than him". So I was like " Okay, I need an agenda". and she said, " I'll get you one of those things that you need then." and just left. They are very unorganized people. I imagine if I didn't get asked to be the mc until a week after the rsvp date for the wedding, I likely won 't get the agenda to write my speech until a week before the wedding or less.

 

So I do not want to do this. They asked me less than 24hrs ago. Is there any way I can phone her and tell her I do not want to do this? Let me know what you think I should do or say.

 

Thank you in advance!

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wow, if it was a regualr party i think i would give her the benfit of the doubt but its a wedding; which required months of planning and having and contacting backups for instances like this, that is very difficult. I would bluntly tell her that you can't do it becuase it too short of time and like all other wedding things friends or not, they need adequate time and planning.

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ugh! oh no!

 

i think that yes, you can definitely cancel. but i would do it sooner rather than later! probably best to give her some time to stop by another random "friend's" door wink.gif

 

break the news gently & i'm sure she'll be able to find someone else.

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If it were me, I'd feel like I was being asked as an after thought - just because of the date of the RSVP on the invitations. That just seems really odd. And then top it off with her asking you to emcee her wedding?! I could be completely wrong, but I would feel like she was asking me just because she doesn't know who else to ask, and that asking me was a last resort type of thing. I wouldn't want to do it either and would probably call her and just tell her that on such short notice I unfortunately can't take on this responsibility.

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The truth will set you free...I know confrontations are hard, but just bite the bullet, call her up and tell her she caught you off guard and now that you've had a day or two to catch your breath and get your thoughts together, you're very honored, but it's really not something your comfortable doing and get off the phone ASAP. She was way rude to ask you, and hand you an invite with an RSVP 8 days earlier....she probably knew you were having a cool DW and wanted to snag the invite to YOUR wedding, so thought this would get her in.

You will feel so much better if you get yourself out of this situation!!!!

I'll call her for you if you want : )

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I agree word for word with JerseyKitten!!!

Sounds like you were her 2nd, maybe even 3rd choice! And who knows if she even would have invited you if she wasn't in a pickle. Besides you have your own wedding to worry about. Bite the bullet, say no!

Good Luck :)

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Wow, I am at a loss for words! I agree with jerseykitten, you can decline, but tactfully. The audacity to ask you, and admit that she didn't know who else to mc!? She's not even asking someone in her bridal party!! Well, best of luck to you darlin, and hope everything pans out :) Don't stress out because of it, it's not your fault!

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