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How is everyone already busy a year away?

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#1 ms.nadia

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    Posted 05 August 2009 - 10:25 PM

    Did anyone else have this problem?

    We have not picked a location or a date, just aiming for the Caribbean some time between spring and fall semesters next year.

    Working backward, late August, my fiance goes back to school. Early and mid August are out for my family because of religious holidays (they are observant, no getting around it). Today my FMIL calls me in a panic saying her husband, my FFIL, cannot do any of June or July, and my FSIL's graduation is mid-May.

    What's a DW couple to do?? How much lead time can you give people?? How is a year not enough?

    #2 trance_angelx0x

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      Posted 06 August 2009 - 10:02 AM

      A year is more than reasonable... I would write down everyone's "suggestions" and go from there, hopefully you can find a one week window between everyone's restrictions. Good luck.

      #3 *Nadine*

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        Posted 06 August 2009 - 10:21 AM

        We gave everyone a years notice b/c alot of things come up and alot of people do have plans that far in advance (big trips, other weddings etc). The sooner you pick a date and place, the more people you will most likely have come. Good luck :)

        #4 sweetiekris

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          Posted 06 August 2009 - 10:37 AM

          We did a year notice and there are people that have other obligations but its ur day just book it and if someone cant make it oh well. People can change plans and thats rediculous that they cant do anything next year for 2 months straight. Just pick ur time thats convient for you or else youll never get married. I went through the same thing and just booked to have the wedding or else we wouldnt of gotten married with everyones suggestions and all. Keep ur head up it will work out

          #5 blckrevpower

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            Posted 06 August 2009 - 11:13 AM

            go with what you and your fiance want. it's your wedding, choose a date and stick with it.
            "Bart, with $10,000, we'd be millionaires! We could buy all kinds of useful things like...love!" --Homer Simpson

            #6 NaM

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              Posted 06 August 2009 - 11:16 AM

              setting a date is SOOO stressful. You will NEVER find a perfect date that works for everyone. It's a shame but just find a general few weeks most people can work with and narrow it down from there. The more time you give the better.
              Good luck!

              #7 slapsappyhappy

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                Posted 06 August 2009 - 12:39 PM

                I am having the same problem!!!! But you know if it was at home then they would still have a problem with your date so just pick one and forget them!

                #8 Danielle77

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                  Posted 06 August 2009 - 12:43 PM

                  a year is plenty of notice...it gives people enough time to figure out holidays.

                  #9 Sloan

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                    Posted 06 August 2009 - 12:57 PM

                    People will still flake out on your DW even if you gave them 10 years in advance. Do what you and FI want and if people really want to go and they can, they will. I'd still be trying to figure out what month/day/year to get hitched if I listened to my friends/family. Just my two cents.

                    #10 rodent


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                      Posted 06 August 2009 - 01:01 PM

                      just set a date & stick with it & let people know you understand if they can't make it.

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