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#1 RedCasillas03

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    Posted 04 July 2009 - 12:30 PM

    If you are having a destination wedding, should you invite everyone or just the people you know will come? We are getting married in Mexico and our immediate families will definitely come (About 40 people) but should we invite extended family even know they probably won't go. Is it proper wedding etiquette to invite everyone and just wait for a response? Would it be considered a waste of money to send out an extra 150-200 invitations to people that might or might not travel to Mexico for our wedding? On another side note does anyone have a good suggestion for company or do it yourself invitations for destination wedding? Thanks.

    #2 Tilly in the Sun

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      Posted 05 July 2009 - 11:50 AM

      I guess it all depends on what you guys want to do. We are sending them out to everyone, even family we know aren't coming. We are also doing an AHR after we get home, and whoever is invited to the wedding will also get an invite for the AHR. We have pretty close families though so that was a no brainer for us, and think of who you really want to be there for your day. If you do send them to everyone, I think you would be surprised at who would come as well...we have people confirming we never thought would be able to come :-) The more the merrier!!

      As for the do it yourself invites...this site is beyond amazing for help on just about any topics...there are tonnes of threads about just that. Check out vistaprint.com as well...they have some really cute ideas at good prices. Hope this helps!!

      #3 ashnic2005

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        Posted 05 July 2009 - 07:19 PM

        I think that you should send the invitation to all and allow each one to decide whether or not they would like to come.
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        #4 s_katrese

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          Posted 05 July 2009 - 08:02 PM

          Yes I think it would be best if you sent them to everyone, you may be surprised and people you think would not attend will. Let us know what you choose to do.

          #5 big3n09

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            Posted 05 July 2009 - 08:35 PM

            I felt like sending invitations to everyone was a waste of money so we have a website and then STD will go to mostly everyone. I will be doing my actual invitations about 6-8 weeks out and they will go to those who have booked travel. This site has just about any kind of DIY wedding project you can think of, there are some very creative and talented people on here.
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            #6 Ottawa Bride

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              Posted 05 July 2009 - 08:43 PM

              I think the choice is very much up to each couple. Some choose a destination wedding in order to keep it small and intimate... we chose to have a destination wedding because there was no way we could accomodate as many people as we wanted to invite (I have an enormous family!!)... We fully realize and understand that by doing it this way, some people who would have liked to come won't be able to make it, but we felt this was the best way to let everyone know we would want them to be there with us if they could. Our invitation were expensive, however, we figured that we could send them out to everyone since going away will be costing us less than getting married here... all comes out in the wash, I guess :) We did send out std's, then send the invitations a few months later, including all of the information guests would need to book... I've posted our invites on here, along with all of the information we included - if you search 'petalfold' you should be able to find them. As the other brides have already mentioned, there are a ton of other ideas on here as well. Best of luck!

              #7 amyrot

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                Posted 05 July 2009 - 09:05 PM

                Hi- I was having this discussion today with my mother......I just made my save the dates and I had them printed from vista print. www.vistaprint.com
                I made postcards using my own uploaded pictures with info about the DW on the front and the AHR date on the back- and I am sending them to everyone...so now I feel like I have to send the wedding invitations to everyone although I feel like its a little silly since out of 200 people probably 30-40 will go if I'm lucky. but...I am sending them anyway so they know they are all invited. So now my dilemma is that I will also have to send out additional inivited for the AHR....so I've just decided to make those invites as casual and cheap as possible because all this adds up! vista print gave me an awesome deal for the STD's. I ended up calling with a question and she gave me 100 postcards for free!!!!

                #8 Erika J

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                  Posted 05 July 2009 - 09:30 PM

                  We ended up sending them to everyone, because it is what felt right to us.

                  We also had some requests from people the openly said they could not come but wanted to receive an invite.

                  #9 ~Jessica~

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                    Posted 06 July 2009 - 10:38 AM

                    I think it is all up to personal preference. We are inviting about 70 people knowing they all won't be able to make it, but we are not sending the invitations to a lot of people who would have been invited if we had our wedding at home. We narrowed it down to an "A" list and a "B" list. Whoever made the A list will get an invite and the B list people are not getting one. People on the B list were relatives we never see (like 3rd cousins) and parents friends and coworkers.

                    #10 DarcyJAde

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                      Posted 06 July 2009 - 10:55 AM

                      I used Kari Kileen in Chicago. She makes handmade invitations. I sent out invitations to eeveryone, that way no one felt lef out. Also, many people will want to send you gifts even if they can't make it, so it's better that tehy get an invitation.

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