Need help. I suck
Posted 03 July 2009 - 11:00 AM
I go to the station to visit him with Annabelle our daughter (would be his soon to be step-daughter). All is well then I go inside so say hi to his partner and there is some new chick sitting in a chair and gives me that look up and down. Call me crazy but it was the look of "oh that is your fianc©".....Anyways we go outside and I said "you have a ride along today?" He goes "yes, and she has the hots for me" Um yeah dont tell me that. So right then I start getting jealous. He goes dont worry she knows Im engaged. Ok thats great but was the look she gave me necessary Well lastnight I found out she has his number and called him asking when he works in July so she can schedule another ride along with him and his other partner. I was not to happy. My heart sank. He has plenty of girlfriends and just adding more will make my heart sink. My FI has this thing about him where he can just be so charming. I dont want to push him away but at the same time I dont want to sit back and just let these girls that just walk into his life to sit and flirt with him.
Feedback Im scared really am scared. Im in tears typing this!!!!
Posted 03 July 2009 - 11:55 AM
I hope he sees your side.
Posted 03 July 2009 - 12:39 PM
keep an eye on that one but dont just assume she means harm or working her way in on him. you gotta show your fiance your confidence. trust me. MEN LOOOOOVE CONFIDENCE. nothing sexier than a strong woman. plus that will put her in her place. dont be too confident though cause then that pushes into arrogance
anyways. i hope it works out for you and that i could offer a little help.
Posted 03 July 2009 - 01:29 PM
| Originally Posted by jean-marcus |
i can feel your pain and distrust becuse of your past being cheated on. but you have to trust your fiance and put all that behind you. you gotta learn from your past but not bring it into your current relationship. there is one thing that will kill a relationship faster than anything and that is jealousy and distrust. believe me I have broken up with a few women because of that.
Posted 03 July 2009 - 01:32 PM
I understand that you have been hurt in the past, but what does that have to do with FI? Nothing really. If my FI was giving me a hard time about some guy in my office and I had done nothing to make him think I was not trustworthy, I would be pissed! That would be a huge slap in the face to me. Anyhow, no judgement here, I'm just trying to offer the other side to help you work through your feelings. You look radiant and beautiful in your profile pic, and FI loves that about you otherwise he wouldn't be with you. Just remember that!! Good luck and we're here for you!!
Posted 03 July 2009 - 01:54 PM
What you need to do, is be super friendly to her (if possible), and any of his other girlfriends. Put that negative energy into being friendly. It will show that you are confident, and further show him that you trust him. --- i mean, you have no reason not to trust him, right?
Keep your friends close and enemies closer... or something like that.
Posted 03 July 2009 - 02:14 PM
I think you're going into the situation with a "guilty until proven innocent" attitude as opposed to an "innocent until proven guilty" attitude. I know you've been cheated on in the past but you can't punish your FI for this. If he's been trustworthy so far you have to trust that he will stay that way. If you don't, your relationship is really going to suffer
Posted 03 July 2009 - 02:33 PM
Posted 03 July 2009 - 03:54 PM
Posted 04 July 2009 - 02:02 AM
once again jealousy is evil evil one of the reasons i'm still single is because of my work i am constantly surrounded by beautiful women and by nature i've always been flirty. ive never even dreamed of cheating on a girlfriend or would want to its hard for a lot of women to not be jealous. one day ill find maybe a beautiful photographer lady to spend my life with cause she will understand hahaa
anyways i digress sorry... like i said. stay positive. stay trusting. if theres a reason to not trust him then, and only then, should you start to be suspicious but till then trust him completely with all your heart
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