What would you do if you found
Posted 21 June 2009 - 10:40 PM
So I'm cleaning the bedroom, which he didn't exactly clean out before I moved in here a few months ago, and this Valentines Card falls out of who knows where....it's from FI's ex from a long time ago...they were together for 7 years and broke up 2+ years ago. It was the card and a bunch of letters. I confess that I read one letter, which happened to be the "kiss off" letter that told him how she hates him and blah blah blah.....I opened another one, but it started saying how she loved him so I didn't read it further.
So now, what do I do with these? Knowing him, he had no clue where they were and will never know that they are gone. I would like to just throw them out and act like they were never there. Is that wrong? I trust you ladies and your advice.
Posted 21 June 2009 - 10:45 PM
as much as i can imagine you want to chuck them it really isn't your place to do so and you might do a lot of damage by "taking that away from him" kwim?
what about putting all of the stuff in a box or bag and telling him you came across it all while cleaning and wasn't sure how he wanted to get rid of it so gathered it together for him to do so?
Posted 21 June 2009 - 10:50 PM
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Posted 21 June 2009 - 11:32 PM
On another note, not that I think its right, but I keep all my ex letters too. Not because I am still in love with them but just for memories... like estella1007 said. I don't plan to throw them out but if my FI asked me too I would, because I know how his letters from his ex made me feel.
Good Luck, let us know how it goes.
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Posted 22 June 2009 - 08:30 AM
If you were to reverse the situation, and he were to have found old letters or photos of you with an ex, and tossed them without consulting you first, would you be okay with it? Personally, it would tick me off, because there might be a reason I was keeping them - like may be the letters point out to him all the things he did wrong in that relationship and he keeps them to remind him what not to do.
It's a stretch, but better to just tell him you found them and not risk him feeling like you're invading his privacy or trying to somehow get rid of his past.
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