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[Jenamie]

So I keep reading in the thread of things at weddings you would never do the one thing I kept seeing you trash was no alcohol...

Why?

I'm not having alcohol at my wedding... I dont want my day trashed by a bunch of people acting dumb and throwing up all over the place...

Plus my Grandma is really religious and it would make her feel really uncompy.

And the beach house they almost would not rent to us with a "party" because it has a pool under a balcony.


So is it really that bad to go to a wedding with out alcohol

[DGG]

I think it depends on your crowd - I know most of my friends and some of my family would hate it, but I have also been to weddings without alcohol (for religious reasons) and people were fine. Some of their friends "snuck" in alcohol but even those of us who didn't still had a great time...
I am trusting my friends and family will not get drunk and throw up, etc - I hope people are a little more mature than that, but you need to do whatever is right for you, your family and the group of people you are having.
If you want to include something, maybe just have a cocktail hour and then no alcohol during dinner or just wine or something like that. There is a balance between a drunken party and serving wine with dinner. But I think it's fine if you don't have any alcohol if that's what you're more comfortable with.. I think most people will have a good time regardless..

[Jenamie]

You know I guess I never thought of it because Ive never been to a wedding with aclcohol...

I looked at doing a cocktail hour but I worry about my grandma, but now I wory I'll be the "wedding not to have" not that I care what people think but there all travaling to a middle of no where town I dont want them to be disapointed in what I work really hard to offer :/

[laybar]

I am assuming that if you have never attended a wedding with alcohol then, the group attending all have similar values.. if they know you, then they would know this already, or assume it already. I mean, if they're there for a vacation & want to have a drink, they can always have a drink beforehand.. I'll be honest, i would prefer alcohol when attending a wedding, but i behave.. but if i got invited to a wedding for a friend whose beliefs included no alcohol, i would laready expect that there woudl be no alcohol and would respect that.. its not about 'me' as a guest.. its about the couple celebrating their love for one another. hope that helps!

[Duchess]

If the people coming are traveling a long way and paying a high expense to be there, I think no alcohol is a Dont. Thats just me. I dont think people need to be throwing up and drunken, but its their vacation and their time off, and many people enjoy a cocktail when out. I am not familiar with your views or those of your grandmother, but it seems that no drinking is a personal decision, so those who do not have the same beliefs should have the right to imbibe.

If you have concerns about booze, I would have the bar closed after a certain point, but I do think people will find it odd (unless everyone coming is of the same religious persusasion).

[yamille]

I agree with what the other girld have said about it being your day and about what you are comfortable with. I think if you don't consume alcohol then your friends and family know that and shouldn't expect it. I personally like having a drink at a social event BUT you better believe I won't be acting rediculous. You know your guest- that's the bottom line.

[1elephant]

if everyone feels the same as you, and you've never had a wedding w/ alcohol, then sure, it makes sense for you. but personally, i can't imagine a wedding w/o booze.

[big3n09]

It's really up to what you and FI decide. I would just consider my guest and the fact that you are to some degree entertaining them as well as celebrating. Do you think they will act crazy if you do have alcohol? Or how would they feel if you don't? Bottom line it's what the two of you decide in the end!

[Jacilynda]

I have to agree, its really up to you and your crowd. We are definitely a party crowd, but we're pretty seasoned. Many of us are actual wine and scotch connoisseurs so this crowd definitely needs to hold the alcohol. We aren't going to be partying so hard we're puking or anything. We will definitely be drinking and dancing the night away. I know what its like to have a grandma that would be uncomfortable, mine is the same way. We debated about it, but agreed that its just who we are to have some drinks so we will. My grandma is no longer coming due to medical issues w/ my grandpa, but its up to you, FI and how your crowd will react.

[ErinB]

I think the no alcohol depends on the reason you are doing it. If you have a group of non-drinkers and you and your FI don't drink then it's not a big deal.

I just don't like to see people skip a bar for budgetary reasons only, especially if you know your guests are people who imbibe or you and your FI drink socially.

When people are concerned with budget they can offer just beer & wine, wine with dinner, a champagne toast, a signature cocktail, etc. I personally feel that cash bars at weddings are just as bad as no alcohol.

I blame a lot of issues on drunken guests on the person serving the drinks. Either the bartender isn't trained well enough to know how to handle intoxicated guests or the hosts didn't spend the extra to hire a professional server.