In-laws

[chicklet]

Struggling the feeling that my mother-in-law to be is feeling unappreciated and left out.

Just curious how much you girls involved your in-laws in the planning of the wedding or any important events? What did you involve them in if they were involved?

Help..thoughts and experiences please.

[syl1115]

My MIL lives in Pittsburgh and I did not involve her in a lot. Actually, I did not involve her in anything! LOL She didn't seem to mind not being involved. I had my daughters help me more than anyone else and they grew bored with the whole thing very quickly! If she wants to be more involved, let her help with some of the DIY projects. She may just want to feel needed.

[1elephant]

i had my mil come look at my dress after i picked it. she helped w/ the shower by doing favors and meddling a lot.

[Bisha]

Unforetunately, my MIL died when my then boyfriend now husband were dating for only 9 months. I really wish she was around, I know she would have helped any way she could and there would have been a lot less family drama around the whole wedding.

 

I know that doesn't really answer your question but, I say if she wants to help, get her involved and be grateful that you have one!

[SAM]

My MIL and I are very close. When I first started planning we went to all of those wedding expos. We had fun looking at everything and the wine tasting. I send her alot of photos of what I have picked out and will have her help my FI pick his shirt.

[Hartyt509]

Mine is not involved in ANYTHING because she is a prize twat!! The fact she has to turn up irritates me lol

 

In fact FI has told her to contact him if she wants anything because she is an interfering demanding cowbag lol oh and everything is about HER!!

 

Can you tell I can't stand her lol

 

God that feels better lol

[~*petals*~]

My in-laws to-be are just so happy to be going on vacation to Jamaica! They haven't meddled at all.

 

I did invite my FMIL when I went to get my dress & she cried when she saw me in it. She only has sons & FI is the first to get married so it was special for her.

[kevsgirl]

We haven't involved her in very much, though she did involve herself by making us change our wedding date No, in all seriousness, I really like FMIL.

 

I've ended up involving her by accident - I had issues with my first dress, so she came and looked at me in i t and gave her opinion and she came with me when I went to find my dress (2nd and last!). She also apparently wants to throw me a family shower. This is funny because my friends are throwing me one, but she wants to throw one for all the family and instead of just combining. It's probably for the best, because if my friends want any say in theirs they shouldn't combine! She tends to take over...

[adias.angel]

I love my FMIL. Last year they moved to the other side of the country and I miss her terrible.

 

She has been very involved in our planning. My FI put together a planning blog and I put together a web album of all the pictures/ideas I had to show her. (In my signature are links to all these things.) She is even planning on throwing me a shower which she is sooo excited about.

 

Basically there are 5 people besides me and FI who are involved in my wedding planning; my mom, my sis, FSIL, FMIL and BF. We plan on having a few togethers with these people to assemble invites, STDs, programs, etc. All have felt very involved, no complaints yet.

 

Hope that helps, Carla

[Sloan]

My FIL's are just happy to be going to Jamaica and not having to deal with an AHWedding/Reception. I dont really include my own mother in the wedding planning. Hehe - she's not type that wants to be in on everything I buy or decide on. I email her pictures of stuff.

 

FMIL and FI's cousins are planning my shower - limobus to Niagara-on-the-lake to do wine tours/lunch/get pissed.