Can't afford a Wedding Party (DW Ettiquette)
Posted 05 October 2008 - 06:34 PM
He may ask another friend to stand up for him who's booked, but we may just use my 2 sisters.
It definitely limits the drama.
Oh and we're not paying for them, but my father is helping one sister and my mother is heping the other sister (father and mother are divorced, mom lives in Australia with one sister the other sister lives with my dad in Ottawa).
But I am making them extra special OOT bags, supplying their jewelry and their shoes too, I think.
Posted 05 October 2008 - 07:39 PM
Posted 06 October 2008 - 01:29 PM
Posted 06 October 2008 - 01:36 PM
in fact, i'm singing in a wedding in november for a friend, and she didnt even offer to buy the sheet music for $5. i had to go find & pay for it myself.
we did not pay a dime toward anyone in our bridal party's travel or stay. we told them well in advance and were very upfront, we understand if you cant afford to go, but we can't afford to pay for you. the only person who ended up backing out was my own sister. my other 3 BMs were there without any bitching about cost. 2 were my best friends from college and the 3rd was my SIL.
Posted 06 October 2008 - 01:54 PM
We also split the cost of one of FI's sisters travel/lodging because they have 6 kids and we wanted them all to be there, so we thought it was only right.
Posted 06 October 2008 - 03:29 PM
That all being said, FI and I are paying for everything for the wedding ourselves and really cannot afford to pay for anyone else! We talked to everyone we wanted in our bridal party and our parents before we decided anything... asked them if they would be willing to participate in a DW and make it their summer vacation trip. We were very transparent about the whole process! All of them but one of FI's groomsmen (who we have since realized wasn't half as good of a friend as we thought) and my sister, decided that they would like it and have already placed deposits.
I think its up to you and FI what you are comfortable doing.. =)
Posted 06 October 2008 - 03:56 PM
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