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My youngest sister has passed...I want to cancel ceremony

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#1 Indigo

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    Posted 03 October 2008 - 12:05 PM

    Hello Ladies,

    On tuesday (9/30) my youngest sister died unexpectedly. My family and I are in such a shock that it is becoming hard for me to function. I don't even look forward to our ceremony in Jamaica in nearly 2 months. I had so much planned for the wedding and I just want to cancel it all.

    #2 Yari

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      Posted 03 October 2008 - 12:07 PM

      Oh my goodness! I am so sorry for your loss. I don't know what to say except we are here for you.

      #3 DanielleNDerek

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        Posted 03 October 2008 - 12:08 PM

        I'm so sorry for your loss.

        I can understand why you would want to cancel your wedding. If it's better for you and your fi, then cancel it. I'm sure your guests would understand completely. But maybe you should wait a couple of weeks before making a final decision.
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        #4 LadyP

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          Posted 03 October 2008 - 12:10 PM

          I am soo sorry for you loss. I can't imagine what you and your family are experiencing right now.

          I think that your sister would not want you to cancel your joyous occassion but celebrate the joining of two souls. What if you had a moment of silence for her or a prayer for her. I dont think your sister would want you to lose the money that you put into the planning and preparing for you wedding. Include her.

          #5 YoursTruly

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            Posted 03 October 2008 - 12:11 PM

            OMG OMG!

            That is the toughest, most unfortunate turn of events Indigo. I am sooo sorry to hear of your loss! I could not even imagine. Right now, the last thing you need to feel is stress and pressure. You have not have the chance to even try and internalize the situation to know what it is you want to do next and you can't put a time stamp on a situation like this.

            Please take time to breathe, TALK it out if you are up to it and if spiritual pray for guidance. You will know what to do based on what your heart tells you and also what the spirit of your sister wil guide you to do. I know she would want the best for you.

            I will keep you in my prayers. I am so touched!

            #6 Angel

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              Posted 03 October 2008 - 12:11 PM

              I am so sorry to hear that.
              I could imagine how hard that is for your and your family.
              You'll be in my prayers.

              #7 jmiranda

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                Posted 03 October 2008 - 12:14 PM

                I am so sorry for your loss. It is very understandable for you and FI wanting to cancel the ceremony. Just do what makes you feel better. Lets us know if you need anything.

                #8 JaimeLynne

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                  Posted 03 October 2008 - 12:14 PM

                  I am so terribly sorry for the loss of your little sister...

                  My mother passed away about a month before my older sister's wedding. My sister decided to move along with the wedding (it was also a destination wedding - though in the states, Aspen CO.).

                  It actually helped us all out I think. Gave us something really happy to think about in a time of extreme sadness. However, everyone is definitely unique and only you and your family know what's best...

                  If you do go ahead with it, I'm sure your sister will be looking down at you with gracious blessings... best wishes...

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                  #9 beachbride08

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                    Posted 03 October 2008 - 12:17 PM

                    I am so sorry for your loss. You still have some time before your wedding, and I think maybe the trip to Jamaica might help you relax a little after going through this difficult time. However, you know how you and your family handle difficult situations and I'm sure you will make the right decision.

                    #10 roo66

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                      Posted 03 October 2008 - 12:21 PM

                      Oh my god, im feeling your pain having lost my younger and only sister when she was 13.Can i ask what happened?Forget the wedding at the moment and just wait and see how you feel in a month or so.We always say the person would want us to carry on .Only you know what your sister would of wanted for you both dont put any pressure on yourselves to make decisions. Im sure your just waking up each morning and wondering how you are going to get through this.Let me tell you you will.Life wont ever be the same again thats for sure.I have one other piece of advice remember her and smilexxxxxx im so sorry you are having to go through this.huge hugs n squezzes maria xxx.Give your parents a big hug from me too.xxxx im sorry

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