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What have I learned from planning a destination wedding?

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#51 cdc0427

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    Posted 18 February 2009 - 02:53 PM

    THis thread is great!

    #52 Duchess

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      Posted 19 February 2009 - 12:14 PM

      Originally Posted by NJ_bride
      "The people you love the most, will be among those who hurt your feelings the most as you plan the "Big Day". It's those you least expect that will surprise you with their thoughtfulness and helpfulness."

      I have never read a more true thought! Almost 3 months after my wedding I still think about that part everyday. Some relationships were changed forever over our wedding.

      Also agree with the less is more.
      I also agree with both of these points. My mom was asking about flowers and if there would be enough. But you know what, flowers are expensive. Candles are not expensive. So when it finally came, it was so dark, flowers wouldnt have been the best way to spend money! And it looked gorgeous because the backdrop was the waves!

      As far as who will hurt you, DH still won't talk to his step mother that he was super close to before. She got upset with DH's dad and cancelled her trip suddenly in October. We didn't even know until December, right before the wedding. He was so hurt. Meanwhile, my mother's work friend came and spent the whole time with the family and gave us a very generous gift, and it has changed that relationship too!

      #53 calchik

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        Posted 19 February 2009 - 07:38 PM

        glad i found this thread!
        i totally agree with everything said, esp about knowing who your true friends are. sad but true
        and that's it's all about me and FI

        i find when i'm about to buy something or start a DIY i think to myself 'will my guests remember, care or notice?'
        if the answer is no then i don't bother

        #54 Virg

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          Posted 10 May 2009 - 01:22 PM

          I have learned, like many other brides that some friends and family will disapoint you, and some will surprise you with their love, helpfulness, and generosity :)
          Happily Ever After: June 1, 2006
          Made it legal : June 30, 2009


          #55 dnrosier

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            Posted 10 May 2009 - 01:37 PM

            Great Thread. It was so great to read this especially being a week out....Thank you!

            #56 Nicolem82580

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              Posted 10 May 2009 - 02:10 PM

              Such an awesome thread !!!! Ill have to remember to keep reading it as I plan my wedding !!! Im still waiting to get engaged....the ring is getting made as we speak...and i've already had soo many negative things said to me about having a destination wedding !!! To my suprise...they have all come from family members !!!! Gotta love family !

              #57 Jamaica0619

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                Posted 10 May 2009 - 02:44 PM

                I have to agree....you learn a lot about the people in your life - for the good, and unfortunately, for the bad. The day has to be about you and your FI and what you want.

                Although it has been more about what I want since his eyes glass over if I talk about the wedding for more than 10 minutes. LOL... So, he kind of goes along with whatever, but weighs in on the big decisions.
                Don't walk behind me; I may not lead. Don't walk in front of me; I may not follow. Just walk beside me and be my friend. ~ Albert Camas

                #58 BlakleyBrideToBe

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                  Posted 10 May 2009 - 03:21 PM

                  Thanks for the thread, this is great!


                  #59 montegobay09

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                    Posted 10 May 2009 - 04:06 PM

                    I can't believe I didn't see this thread before!

                    I learned that...

                    * Just because I'm a big family person, doesn't mean "family" need to be blood related. The friends that came with us feel like family now and everyone on the trip agreed that we were such a cohesive group and it felt like one big happy "family".

                    * Extra decorations aren't necessary to make a white sand beach in the Caribbean look weddingy. I saw weddings that were all decked out and my first thought was...added stress! I loved that our decorations were simple...and free!

                    *Midol definately does help keep the tears away and calm your emotions. I cried all morning and every time I'd see my Mom and Dad. After the Midol I was fine!

                    *Plan a group excursion for shortly after your wedding. We did a snorkeling excursion the day after our wedding. It only left at 3:00pm so we had lots of time to recover and it was the best day. We were all so relaxed and even those who didn't snorkel said it was so worth it! It was the best "wedding reception" ever!

                    I'm sure there's more and I ditto what other brides on here said too...love this thread Shellb! Thanks!

                    #60 H&F

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                      Posted 18 May 2009 - 09:19 PM

                      Great thread everyone. Thank you all for sharing.

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