| Originally Posted by AprilandPatrick |
When we announced our plans to his family they went crazy. First, we had to change our wedding date 4-times to accomodate his mother's travel schedule as she is a professional artist, and has several shows. Once we set a date, she threw a fit, becuase she would be out of town-the date has been scheduled for June 13, 2009. With the new date set she is still upset beuase it still interferes with her travel.
Back to them going crazy. They have persistent on changing our mind to having a wedding in Oklahoma City
In the end, we decided to just make our own decisions and to hell with everyone else.
At some point you have to be able to just step back and say "This is the way that it is" and if they don't like it they can STFU, KWIM?
Good luck with making them understand, but realize that you may never get through to them. That's OK. Over and above that you need to focus on enjoying the planning for both of you and your marriage. Sometimes it's not worth the effort trying to educate nutty people.
BTW, FI's mom is still talking about our wedding to everyone who isn't invited. It's awkward, but I just run around behind her saying "It's going to be very small, only 15 people..." so they get the hint.
Man, is it ever funny being a DW bride.
P.S. I think that the letter should come from your FI, not you. BUt that's just my opinion. You shouldn't have to be the bad guy in this situation. It's his family. He should be the one to 'fight' the battle.