Am I being ungrateful?
Posted 07 August 2008 - 12:53 PM
So as we are drawing closer to the shower I have found out that my FMIL has completly taken over, (my FSIL is ok with it) it is going to be at my FMIL house and she invited a whole bunch of people that were not on my list, and that were not invited to the wedding.
We had a bad experinece with our engagement party that was at her house. It was bad because she said that she wanted to do it, and she would take care of everything. We ended up paying for 90% if it and planning the whole thing. And my parents felt put out, because FMIL didnt include them in anything.
Now my mom is pissed, because she said that my FMIL should have nothing to do with planning the shower and she mad that people are invited that are not invtited to the wedding (personally I think its tacky, FMIL thinks they would want to be included) And she feel's awkard that FMIL is taking over.
Wheewww that was a long vent. What do I do? I dont want my FMIL doing my whole bridal shower.
Well my mom got mad and called FMIL. She said it was not her place to butt into the planning, and it was incredibly rude to invite people that were not invited to the wedding. She also said that the engagement party was at her house and she didnt need to host a second party. So now the party will be at FSIL. FMIL addmitted that she did butt in. Im sure there was more to the convo as my mother can be a bit abrasive. However she said that FMIL didnt cry so that is good. A big part of me is releaved, but a small part of me is worried about what the Consequence will be. But a big releaf, whoo hoo my mom saved the day!!!!!
Posted 07 August 2008 - 12:57 PM
Posted 07 August 2008 - 01:00 PM
Posted 07 August 2008 - 01:03 PM
Maybe your FI can talk to his mom and sis about the situation?
Posted 07 August 2008 - 01:04 PM
The guest list part stinks because if they've already been invited there's no turning back. I hope they are aware they are not invited to the wedding or that could get sticky during the shower! Yikes. I'm no help. lol
Posted 07 August 2008 - 01:11 PM
Is it too much work for her and her sister? Maybe you can recruit a friend or something to help them that might offer their house. Then you can put it off on your friend that she really wanted to have it at her house... Not sure if that would work. Just an idea.
Posted 07 August 2008 - 01:15 PM
i'd definitely talk to fsil about it more...tell her it's NOT what you want, and it's supposed to be your day. OR, would it be possible to have your mom talk to one of them? my mother had to talk to mil AND fil about shower related etiquette. she did it so that i wouldn't have to be the bad guy.
Posted 07 August 2008 - 01:16 PM
Posted 07 August 2008 - 01:20 PM
Is it possible to talk to your FMIL? Ask her not to have it at her home, and let her have some of your friends and mom help out. Or is she bullheaded and wants things her way (which is so wrong - this is for you!).
Posted 07 August 2008 - 01:32 PM
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