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#11 Sandra E.

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    Posted 09 June 2008 - 08:12 AM

    Oh yes, just do what you want and don't feel pressure. At the end the people that will be there will be there and you'll have a fantastic time!

    #12 Hartyt509

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      Posted 09 June 2008 - 08:19 AM

      Happens to us all lol

      We invited 35 : 7 have booked!! and to be truthful I really don't care - if they don't want to come don't hardly the end of the world for me i'll have what I want!

      I'm expecting the worst to be FMIL (FI still hasn't told her lol) she is proper gonna kick off when she finds out no-one else from her family are invited but thats just tough - as FI said "SHIT OR BUST - she either likes it or she don't" lol

      Its their loss not yours - you'll have a fab few days and they will just feel crappy for missing it

      #13 becks



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        Posted 09 June 2008 - 08:37 AM

        Oh, yes. Happens to each and every one of us.

        It's really fun to sit there nicely and listen to them explain why your dream wedding isn't convenient for them and that you should be willing to disregard everything you want your wedding to be in order to accomodate them.

        Oh! And the question about whether or not I was pregnant and was running off "because I had to" was rather interesting, too.

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        #14 DanielleNDerek

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          Posted 09 June 2008 - 09:05 AM

          I think the question should be "Did this not happen to anyone else?" Cause it seems to happen to all of us!!! Your never going to make everyone happy and at first i would feel guilty by the people who would tell me "i'm dissappointed that i won't be able to make your wedding and i really wanted to see you get married", well you know what they should be dissapppointed because my wedding is going to kick ass! All those people are going to miss out on a great time.
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          #15 beachbride08

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            Posted 09 June 2008 - 09:12 AM

            Originally Posted by MarysoL
            Hello all...

            Ever since my fiance and i started telling our friends and family we want to get married in Los Cabos, we keep getting the occasional disapproving look or negative comment. More than one person has tried to talk us out of it. I know its our wedding and we should do whatever makes us happy but I can't help but feel a little pressured. Is this the case with anyone else or is it just us?
            I think we have all had this issue. I just had another comment made a couple weeks ago by my cousin's wife. Now it doesn't bother me since we are getting married in 5 months, we're booked as well some guests, and it is too late to make any changes now. Not that we would have anyway since this is what we want to do and it's our day. Those that want to be there will be there, and those that aren't are missing out.

            #16 BarefootBride

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              Posted 09 June 2008 - 09:18 AM

              You are not alone and never will be! I have had some of the ugliest remarks made. Your family and friends will have witnessed the most fun wedding they have ever been to once they come to yours! And if they dont - you got to say screw them! They missed out! (or it was an excuse so they wouldnt admit that they couldnt afford it or didnt like to travel)

              #17 Copita

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                Posted 09 June 2008 - 09:25 AM

                I think all of us get a little backlash with a DW. But the thing is, it's nobody's business but ours that we want to have a DW. If they do'nt like it, too bad. It's not THEIR wedding. When they get married or have a party, they can do it anyway they like.
                Don't feed into the negative comments and just plan your wedding. :) Have fun.

                #18 kellywinter1

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                  Posted 09 June 2008 - 09:25 AM

                  This happened to us too. I actually considered eloping because of all the negative feed back we got. Then when we told our family that we planned to elope the same people who gave us the negative feed back was upset we were eloping! So we went back to our original plans of haveing a DW and who ever doesn't like it doesn't have to come.

                  #19 seaprincess

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                    Posted 09 June 2008 - 09:42 AM

                    Oh yes, that is definetly something we've all heard. We've begun answering that we have chosen to do a DW instead of a wedding at home because a) it was something both of us always wanted to do and B) instead of spending $40 000 on a wedding in our city, we would rather put it towards the house we just bought. To us, a DW is an experience to spend a week with family and friends who are there to be with us and celebrate. An at home wedding is what some people envision for themselves as the perfect day, but it has never been what I dreamed of for my wedding. People don't really know what to say. Even my dad made a comment about it being my choice to do a DW, as an excuse for not coming to the wedding!
                    I think you just have to be secure in your decision to have a DW and then the comments won't sway you...I have no doubt that we are doing what is right for us.
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                    #20 Golden

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                      Posted 09 June 2008 - 09:56 AM

                      Yep, you can not please everyone no matter where you have your wedding
                      Remember it's your day!!!

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