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#1 MarysoL

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    Posted 09 June 2008 - 12:18 AM

    Hello all...

    Ever since my fiance and i started telling our friends and family we want to get married in Los Cabos, we keep getting the occasional disapproving look or negative comment. More than one person has tried to talk us out of it. I know its our wedding and we should do whatever makes us happy but I can't help but feel a little pressured. Is this the case with anyone else or is it just us?

    #2 KLC77

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      Posted 09 June 2008 - 12:34 AM

      I think we all probably have had this at least once... for me its my parents who aren't happy and are really negative. I think that there are reasons you chose a destination wedding and whatever they are, when someone is negative just think about those reasons. It is YOUR wedding and the two of you should do whatever makes you most happy. Also, remember that some people always find something to complain about. So, if you were getting married at home chances are there would be people who would find something wrong with that idea too! Might as well make yourselves happy.

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      #3 Ana


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      Posted 09 June 2008 - 12:34 AM

      This has happened to us as well, its usually from people who just don't want to have the expense of travelling. We figured its no big deal, if we're important enough in these people's lives they'd be there, if not then we can probably do without them there for our big day.

      #4 Dbld78

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        Posted 09 June 2008 - 12:35 AM

        Yup! I went through and continue to go through it... You'll learn to let it roll off your back. Just keep in mind, it's your wedding and those that love you will be there and will respect your decision to have a destination wedding.

        #5 Celina

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          Posted 09 June 2008 - 12:37 AM

          Oh no sweetie - sorry to say but it has happened to most of us! Welcome to the world of destination weddings!

          There will be naysayers, and people telling you to "Just get married here". You may even lose people you thought were friends over your choice ~ just hang in there! In the end it's about you and the person you love and making the vows to be husband and wife.

          From what I've heard from those already married, this is a choice they would definitely do all over again!

          Hang tough and stay strong and remember to look at the big picture that lies ahead!

          ~Happy planning!
          "Love is not who you live with...it's who you can't live without"

          #6 Yari

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            Posted 09 June 2008 - 12:48 AM

            Just remember this is your wedding and you need to have it where you and your FI want to have it.

            #7 Jacilynda

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              Posted 09 June 2008 - 12:49 AM

              I've been given the negative attitude because people aren't wanting to go all the way down there. I figure if they din't approve and don't want to come, then I don't want them there. It's my day and I'm not going to let them ruin it. my parents and my sister are the only people on my side of the family coming.

              #8 Jenn

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                Posted 09 June 2008 - 06:50 AM

                As others said, we have all been through this... we were missing quite a few important faces at our wedding, but I would do it over again in a heartbeat! My wedding was exactly what I wanted it to be, and those that didn't make it... it was truly their loss! Everyone who came had a fantastic time!

                #9 jesjess

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                  Posted 09 June 2008 - 07:05 AM

                  Its true, it happens to all uf us, also to me, Altough I didn expacted it to be.
                  It was always my dream to have a destination wedding, but everybody thought that I wouldn do it anyways. Well proven them wrong, Now its a fact I made all the reservations, and is clear as the blue Jamaican Sky, We are GOING! At first everybody was scaptical, but in time, you will get people to be just as exited as you are, it worked for me! Now everybody cant stop talking about the wedding, youll see, they will change there minds, and if they dont, it truly is there loss.. not yours, you ust need you hubby, nothing more..

                  #10 kevsgirl

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                    Posted 09 June 2008 - 07:28 AM

                    It definitely seems to happen to everyone.
                    For me, it was my mom - and it really hurt and completely made me think of other options. I had one rough night during which I came to FI and gave him all these other options for weddings here and then he looked at me and said "Do you want to get married on a beach?", looking right into my eyes. That made me realize that it's easy to lose sight of your dream when you're feeling pressured from other people.
                    You and FI have to be strong and stick to your dream.
                    As others have said, everyone (well MOST) will come around. Now my mom is really excited about it and can't stop emailing me all these great reviews everyone she talks to gives her of the area. :)

                    Good luck!

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