Are you and your fiance waiting to consumate...

[JamesCarson]

Hi Girls,

 

I hope its OK for a guy to chime in here, but I thought that you should all know that some of us guys have waited as well. Both my wife and I were each others first and our wedding night was our first time together. As most of you have said, it is a personal choice for everyone, but I am so glad that I waited. Best wishes to all of you.

[Brian_Wedding]

As another guy I can chime in on this as well.

 

My fiance and I also decided to wait until we're married before we "did it". It's been a rough 2 1/2 years on me but she is worth waiting for. Now that we're engaged it's been especially hard, but we're determined to make it till the wedding in Sept

 

We're especially glad because it will be a good testimony to our kids when we can honestly tell them that we waited, and it was worth it. Though, dad will have to admit to having been around the block a few times before meeting mom.

[angitalia23]

I personally wish I had enough self control...lol. You are making a great choice, your wedding night will be hot n' heavy!

[Agape Gems]

As abstinence-until-marriage educator, I love hearing that so many of you have made this choice! There are so many benefits to waiting that go way beyond just having an amazing honeymoon!

[S2BLennon]

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Originally Posted by Mel Kudos to you guys that can hold out. I made sure he was the right one and I haven't been with anyone else. No way in heck we could even hold out the 35 days to our wedding. We said no sex the day before...hmmm wonder if that will even work?! I think it would be impossible to not do something since we live together and have for the past 3 years.

No Sex the day before! Love this - it is so cute! I think I am in the same boat! LOL Nice thought though huh? Hard to take something away once you have it I guess.

That is why I am with the rest of you and support all of you who are waiting- what a special day that will be for you!
but for me- there is no turning back now!

It was actually funny my mom mentioned that they are getting a larger room so that I can stay with them the night prior since I can't see Chris the night before.... I was like aw damn! This isn't a traditonal wedding! LOL-- I guess it is because we never see anyone anyhow- so thinking that we will have a week alone makes me sad that i can't be with him one of those nights!

But good for you ladies! Can't wait to read this thread after the weddings! LOL! Should be juicy!

[EricaG]

My FI and I have 2 children together, so we obviously didn't wait, but I think it is great for those who do now a days. I know of several people that wanted to wait for marriage, but with all the pressure in today's society, they didn't. I mentioned not doing the deed for a month before the wedding, and my FI looked at me like I had a third eye. But I had also mentioned it after having a difficult pregnancy which resulted in absolutely no sex. We may end up waiting a week before the wedding, and I have told him that he has to stay with someone else the night before the wedding, so there will be nothing happeing that night. LOL

[peterpanpixiedust]

Wow, I'm not alone! I hear what some of you are saying. My best friend since I was four, knows that I have always wanted to wait until marriage. And yet, she still asks me about it from time to time. She always says that she thinks it's awesome, but how she and her husband could never keep their hands off each other, and how she couldn't imagine how we could do it. I know she's just making conversation, but it makes me feel like I'm supposed to buckle under the pressure, and because I'm not, what we have isn't as special as what her and her husband have. I know she doesn't intend for me to feel that way, but I do. So, it's really nice to see some of you girls on here in the same boat as me. FI and I are both virgins, but as some have put... "not dead" ROFL!!! We have slept in the same bed for well over a year. We really haven't felt any pressure. I mean, it really hasn't been hard. Does that mean there is something wrong with me, haha! I am so satisfied with the cuddling and emotional fufillment and I feel that is enough. Plus I am stressed to no end, so maybe that is killing any libido.

[AishaB]

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Originally Posted by Kristy! You're probably going to think I'm nuts, but I've never been with anyone. I've always wanted to wait till my wedding night for my first time. So you're definitely not alone!

You are not nuts Kristy, same here. My FI will be my first. I believe in abstaining and sex after marriage. So you ladies are definitely not alone.

[diamondpooch]

Am I the only one on here whose FI would totally NOT agree to waiting till the wedding night?!!!! I guess I mean those of us who have already been with our fiancees. I think if I told him I wanted to hold out for even three months to make our wedding night special he would tell me no way!

[orionandmari072510]

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Originally Posted by beckyandbrian We were together the night we got engaged and then we decided (mostly I decided and he agreed) to wait again until our wedding night.

Awww! thats nice and special! Make it more exciting!