It feels good to know I'm not alone either. I asked all 4 girls to be in my wedding and if it would be a problem with them. They all graciously agreed, and even pushed me toward having a DW. As time starting going on, one by one they all faded. Sillafeliz said it best. I can't expect them to put their life on hold & i know they had every intention of wanting to go, but please don't string me along. My best friend said she wouldn't miss it for the world, didn't matter the cost, & she finally backed out on me. Now I'm down to 1 bridesmaid and she put her deposit down already.. but I get this funny feeling when it comes time to pay up she won't have the money & i'm stuck with none. I love these girls dearly, and I assume they love me but c'mon after all the while we've been friends? You can't be up front & honest?