So, I have a similar dilemma - only, my issue is with having 2, yes 2 AHRs; one in RI (where I'm from) and one in CA (where my groom is from). My grandmas wont be able to make it to CA and some of his family & friends wont be able to make it to RI and we don't want to leave anyone out. These will both be small BBQ-type events, in our parent's backyards. We are already married, long story, but due to finances decided to just elope here in San Diego and we're keeping that secret from our other friends & family. But in looking at the difficulties in legally getting married in Mexico, I'm kind of relieved for one less thing to worry about, minus the secret part ...