kymish

wow after reading this im not worried about my problems to come LOL....I toam planning a small bridal party, (1 MOH 1 BM) i hope they arent as bas as t his when the times comes for clothes shopping ...i hope you get it all sorted and everything goes well for you !!!

i no just how you feel !! we got engaged in 08 after 2 years together and when my FI told his mom that i said yes her response was "well i thought u were gonna wait a while your not getting married soon right?" totally made me feel like an outsider. while my own family sucks and only my sister will be attending from my side we havent even told his parents yet cause im so nervous about them bashing our plans.. i mentioned our plans for a 2012 wedding to his sister last week on the phone and she said "we prob cant afford it and dont expect my parents to go my mom doesnt wanna travel next year" like umm gee thanks for the support..so just like u i am familyless and planning on my own. (my sister lived 5 hours away). as much as you try not to let it bother you its heartbreaking to feel like a non priority to those who are suppose to care the most....but remember when u are standing on that beach saying your i do's the person who loves you the most and has made you a priority will be right beside you !

u wear whatever makes you comfortable !!! if u want a veil, train and dress then go for it !! if you wanna wear sweat pants, stained t-shirt and hair in a pony then do that !! LOL .. its ur big day and u will look beautiful in anything of your chosing !!!

im so glad it worked out for you !!! good for you for saying something and giving your FI the choice of inviting her.. wash your hands of that girl ! some ppl just have no class..

loved that post !! thanks for sharing !!

i have like 15 of those signs !! mind you i still find 4 doller wine to be pretty good LOL

my wedding mojo has came and went a few times i got engaged in 08 and finally sat down a few months ago and thought maybe we should start making some plans ?? while my wedding date is over a year away its not even written in stone yet..im a slow planner lol but still i hope this mojo i have right now stays for a little longer then a few weeks ! GOOD LUCK WITH UR PLANNING LADIES !!

im so sorry that your going thru this and for your mom to... odds are if your dad is this attached to the "woman" even if you sit down and try to rationalize your feelings about her not attending he may pull the " if she doesnt go im not going" so prepare yourself to either have her attend or have your dad not there. i personally always prepare for the worse to happen. I really hope it works out for you !!

Great Thread... glad to know that i am not the only one not inviting parents/ family... my parents are divorced and both of them RAGE when the others name is brought up... dad wouldnt come cause he would have to spend money on something that wasnt his idea and isnt all about him, when planning my wedding before i decided on a dw he said "dont expect me to walk you up the isle, i prob have to work that day".. and mom wont come cause shes just like that. i also didnt invite any of aunts uncles or cousins. my dads side doesnt have alot and i wouldnt ask them to shell out that kind of money and my mom side is full of addicts and non nice people who i havent spoken with in years. but my only sibling (sister..5 years younger) is coming !! not only is she my sister.. but she is my best friend, and MOH, the only person besides my FI that i can depend on and who will tell me the truth (even if it hurts) LOL.. sometimes having less family at your wedding means less stress and a better time for you ( even thou it makes you sad when u think about it)... in the long run its probably for the best !

LOL... well i did not expect this when i was reading venting forums today.. hope you ladies worked it out !

thanks for posting this !!!

i cant help i laughed a little when i read this.. i going thru same kind of drama as you ladies and i just basically the same thing as this to my mother in the phone... GREAT minds think alike ! hope you families all come to terms with the plans of your wedding !!

i agree with previous posts . you offered her a junior bridesmaid you met them halfway. If the sister or the mom feels that isnt good enough then theirs nothing else you can do. You tried. She can wear a junior bridesmaid dress and feel apart of the wedding or sit in the audience lol.

i totally understand where you and the other ladies are coming from !!. all my friends who i have talked about my wedding with wont be coming because its not gonna be local. They keep asking me to change it but frankly i live 5 hours away from them for the last 3 years and not once have they even made the trip here to see me.( i go to them a week every 4 months to visit) I personally want a dw so that most of my side of the family doesn't come, i haven't spoken to most in years and if it was held locally they would be invited out of guilt and they would only show for the food and drinks ( it sounds harsh but its true). my sis and BIL will be the only attendees on my side. as for my FI side.. would u believe we still havent told them lol... its going to be nothing but lectures and i really dont care enough to listen to it right now LOL. Remember Ladies its ur and his big day.. plan it for where you want to be and surround yourself with the ppl who support you and the decisions on your wedding. last thing you want is to be at your DW and have to listen to ppl whine and moan about the money they are spending to be there.

i love all ur TTD ideas !!! thanks ladies !!

all your projects are georgeous !!!! congrats on your upcoming wedding !! i am putting myself to work on some diy projects this weekend but i tend to have 2 left hands lol

thanks for posting this !!!!

Thanks for sharing this DIY.. i will be trying it out this weekend !

love the hankerchiefs and the soaps !! are soaps hard to make ???

love your oot bags !!!

congrats on ur engagement !! i am also planning my wedding for punta cana for around the same time !!

i agree.. that a shared acct is a great idea ! i will be doing that asap !

congrats mandys !!

greats deals !! thanks for some tips on what to put in oot bags !!

i sent you a pm !