Melidell

Quote: It freaks her out that the TA uses email and my mom is computer-phobic - she knows how to do things but then forgets....she was the first one to send the RSVP but I guarantee when i ask her if she's called she will tell me she forgot. Again. This made me smile- it made me think of my future mother in law. She's such a nice person but she was scared to death that we were going to make her book her trip online or through email too! She was pretty humourous about it. Oh, and thanks for all of the welcomes, everyone.

Quote: LOL! I'm telling the FI that we (I since I'm planning the whole thing) will need a vacation before our wedding for a break from all the planning and stress. Def a part/full time job!!! __________________ Seriously! I'm really thinking about some time off right before the wedding, and I think FI owes me a spa day for the work I've been putting in! He has been a great help, but still, a lot of the work has fallen on me. Oh well, it'll all be worth it!

Wow- that is really exciting. Congrats on your engagment! Have you picked a tentative date yet? Good luck and have fun planning your wedding.

We pushed back our wedding because we decided to buy a house last winter. Financially we probably could have done both but it would have been stressful, and corners may have been cut. Now that we're settled in to the house I can focus on the wedding without it cutting into too much time or money. For us it would have been really stressful doing both at once as both of our schedules with work can get pretty crazy. I like having my house first too- I feel like I can splurge a bit here and there with wedding stuff without feeling like I'm taking it out of our down payment fund. I guess if you choose the wedding first (nothing wrong with that either) then it would work the same way too, you could then focus on your house after the wedding is over without feeling like you're shortchanging your wedding. If you have the ability to budget both, and the time and patience to do it then by all means go for it- but be sure that you give it some serious thought first would be my advice. They are both really stressful life events, emotionally and financially.

I can't believe we have just over 6 months left! It's going to go by so fast now. Okay, I just got a bunch of stuff checked off my list so here goes: Done Found travel agent, booked resort and my vacation, reserved spots for guests Dress and veil purchased and in my closet Invitation order has been sent to the printer website is finished and passed around to everyone who is invited (didn't do STDs, bad I know) rings bought and paid for- mine is sized and ready, FI's still being sized Photographer is booked, and I've found someone to share with which is awesome! Just booked my tickets back home to Nova Scotia (going there for a week and a half before the wedding and flying to Cuba from there) Still need Shoes! FI's suit, he wants to wait until we get home and just get one off the rack- he's almost a perfect match to the off the rack suits though, so should be fine. Ditto his shoes. To book a final fitting with someone back home for the week before the wedding. To find one more person to share our photographer To purchase travel mugs for favours once I get the final guest count

Hi there everyone- I'm an April bride too. I completely hear you all about the stress factor, my supposed-to-be stress free DW has practically turned into a part-time job these last few weeks. I'm hoping it will get easier shortly now that I've checked most of the big jobs off of my list, but who knows. I'll need the vacation once the wedding rolls around at this rate!

I'm so sorry. You must be feeling so disappointed- it's perfectly normal to be angry. I think it's important to not bottle it up; talk to your fiance about how you're feeling. He's probably feeling pretty badly now, too, and remember you're in this together. You have every right to be angry and sad, though, and don't feel guilty about it. My fiance and I had plans to get married earlier than we actually are now, but life kept getting in the way and we pushed it back a few times. In retrospect though, I am so glad we did. We're in such a good place now and we're having the wedding that we want. Getting your finaces in order is no fun but once you have your wedding planning will be that much easier, I promise. Hang in there and vent away if you need.

Congrats! I hope you're able to decide on your destination without too much trouble- but I'm sure whatever you pick you'll have a blast. Happy planning!

Congrats! I hope you're able to decide on your destination without too much trouble- but I'm sure whatever you pick you'll have a blast. Happy planning!

I'm using wedding window too, and I think it's great. Super easy to use and totally customizable- right down to all of the design pictures and colours. It's not free but it's not that expensive and they let you test it out first for a week for free if you want. I actully had a lot of fun making my site. We've had lots of compliments on it so far too!

I just bought this DVD and wanted to give this thread a bump. Is anyone still doing this? I'm trying to get motivated to put it on tonight, we'll see if I can talk myself into it.

Wow- congrats. We just bought our first house this spring, and it has been so rewarding! I love being a homeowner. Once all of the stressful purchasing/legal stuff is finished it is such a wonderful feeling to finally own your home. I love the idea of a home decorating/ improvement thread- I'm always looking for ideas. Good luck and enjoy your home!

Welcome! Enjoy your planning and congrats on your engagement.

Congrats and welcome! I know what you mean- I didn't realize how much planning would go into this either- and the photography thing is a bit overwhelming! You'll do a great job, I'm sure. Happy planning.

Happy planning and welcome! Congrats on your engagement.

Congrats on your engagement. Have fun with the planning- this board is a great resource!

We decided to stay on for an extra week too, I'm so glad now that we did. I'm looking forward to having that fun first week with family and all of the wedding excitement and then after that the two of us will have some time alone to decompress. I don't think it will be too long at all- probably not long enough!

Awesome! I'm so glad that it worked out for you and that you're not stressed anymore. Don't feel silly about being worried about it, I think getting stressed about the odd thing is perfectly normal. Your wedding is such a big deal that all of the details seem to take on so much more importance, you know?

I just checked out your review, Ash, thanks so much for all of the information in it. You've answered a lot of the questions that I had right off the bat without my even having to ask them. I'm glad that your wedding went so well (except for your hair appt. that is). It sounds like the resort really knows what they're doing when it comes to weddings and that is really reassuring. I'm getting really excited! Mel

I don't think that's odd at all! If you have two friends on board already who you want to ask, go ahead and do it- don't feel like you have to wait for other people to commit first. The most important thing is that the people who are close to you are there with you, I wouldn't worry about even numbers. Since I've started researching weddings I've noticed people don't bother playing by those old rules anymore anyway. You can have best women, men of honour, etc.. anything goes and in the pictures I've seen it looks just fine. What about just having two girls walk together- that way you can still pair off the MOH and BM and you'll have even numbers? Ultimately just go with your gut- it sounds like you want your friends to stand up with you and if that's the case then go with it and everything else will fall into place.

I agree with the OP in this case. While I applaud parents who are taking their children out to teach them how to behave in a restaurant or just to spend quality time together as a family, in my opinion 9:00PM at a very fancy/adult restaurant is not the time for this. If I go somewhere family friendly anytime, or even somewhere nice earlier in the evening, I have no problem with kids even if they're not being terribly well behaved (people who let their kids actually run around blow my mind though). In the situation you described, I would be pissed. I had something similar happen once when FI and I were out at our favourite place but in our case the parents took turns taking the baby out to try to calm her and I think people just felt sorry for them- at least they were trying. I think that the way the parents handle it makes all of the difference- it sounds like the people in your case just didn't care at all about everyone else there and that makes it so much worse.

With us it's actually the opposite. I have a rough idea how much FI weighs but he's actually really sensitive about it and has never weighed himself in front of me. He's a big, burly guy and he has put on a few pounds since we met but I could not care less. In my opinion he carries it well and looks just fine. Whenever it comes up I try to remind him that I love him just the way he is, and that he's my "type." Anyway- my point is it's probably a bigger deal to the person who is sensitive about their weight than it is to the other person, you know? I think we make a bigger deal about the things we'd like to change about ourselves than our partners ever would. Just my perspective anyway.

Welcome from one Mel to another! I would say that now that you've picked out your location the next step would be getting in touch with a travel agent, if you plan on using one, and also emailing the resort to check on availability and wedding packages. You shouldn't have any problems getting a date and a time that you like since you've already gotten started with your planning- I wish I hadn't left my planning to the last minute ! Good luck and keep us posted, Mel

Welcome! What an awesome friend you are. Have fun helping with the planning and, of course, at the wedding too.

I think I agree with you over the letter. I would usually say that telling them in person would be the right thing to do, but in your case with the distance and the potential for things escalating I think you should avoid that. Ditto for the phone call, it sounds like there is some emotional abuse going on here, and I firmly believe that you should never accept any kind of abuse- even from family. I'm so sorry that you have this drama going on but it sounds like you've really been in luck with FI's family and I know you'll have an amazing wedding. It sounds cliche but keep focusing on the positive like you've been doing and try not to let it get to you as much as you can. For what it's worth you sound like an amazingly well adjusted person, so I'm sure whatever you put in a letter will be exactly right. Once you've told them it will be such a weight off of your shoulders and then you'll be able to move forward with your plans without it hanging over you anymore. Mel