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Congrats Desihue - That is wonderful news!! I'm so glad the doctor confirmed no surgery is needed!! woo hoo! I feel like you have awesome will power and will be very disiplined and of course we already know you're really active which is amazing! Great Job! This weekend is my MOH's bachelorette party (I'm her MOH too). We're doing a cubs rooftop with unlimited food & beer so I might have to chalk this day up to a "loss" and be extra active next week! Wish me luck

don't be disappointed! if there are no exceptions to the insurance situation then by far the biggest concern is his health and making sure he's covered! we're going to the courthouse 4 months before our wedding and to me it means nothing....the ceremony is what will set up that "married feeling" (at least for me!) and I know you'll feel just as much like a bride!!!!!!!! Good Luck, Don't Worry!

Your wedding looked perfect!!! I loved the little bride and groom rubber duckies in the bath tub- too adorable! Thanks so much for the detailed review and CONGRATS!!!!

Quote: Originally Posted by jetsbride Thanks for your input ladies. It totally sucks because I am in love with the blue dress but my BM's have decided it's not what they want and it's too expensive ($170, is that outrageous?) So I am back to trying to find a BM dress. Lisa- Is it ONLY the cost? Or is there something else they don't like about it? If it's just cost, and you LOVE it, maybe you can pay a portion? ( I tend to offer that in regard to some things with my wedding that I REALLY want). its a tough situation to ask someone to pay an amount they arent comfortable with....but I would keep the dress in mind and continue shopping! You never know what you may find and you've got time! Hell, my BM dresses were 25 bucks! It was a TOTALLY unexpected steal that I stumbled across.

Quote: Originally Posted by Chanti Josie, I'm so glad things have worked out. I must admit, reading your story and how things turned out when you confronted her make me wonder if I handled things appropriately in ending my friendship with my best friend who was supposed to be my maid of honour. I just broke off all communication. Now, I may try to fix things (although I recognize it may be too late), because most of the time I do miss her and wish things would have played out differently, despite how much she hurt me... Thanks for the inspiration!!! Chantal Aw, I'm glad to hear this!!! I know that I usually reach a point where I "cant take it anymore" and I just want to be AWAY from the situation. (My FI convinced me not to do this with my MOH because of our lifelong friendship) Sometimes when you take a step back and cut ties, you realize how important the person is to you! With many relationships, little things continuously happen and build up, and neither person wants to lay down and say "i love you and you're important to me, lets figure out how to work it out" Please let me know what happens if you do reach out to her

Kelly- I just saw your new sig. pic!!! I LOVE IT. Those colors look amazing together. Is that your inspiration?

TylersGirl- Did your dress come in!?? I thought I remembered you saying it was coming in any day now! Let us know if you've had your first fitting and if you have pics!!!

Quote: Originally Posted by bachatabride here's mine...i got matching wine flutes too. They are from everythingforweddings.com (or one of it's affiliate sites!) i love this!

we each have a personal checking and then we have a joint checking with the same bank that both our personal accounts are at. We each have a log in and can check our personal account and the joint. We pay all the bills and contribute each contribute the same amount to a joint savings. Whatever is left over we transfter to our personal accounts to spend on what we like

I posted mine on a different thread asking what i should do about a band!! But i have to post it here too cuz I <3 it! And afterall....this IS the "show us your ring thread" FI proposed with my great-grandmothers ring in it's original setting with the original diamond....but he had the whole thing completely rehabbed! I was shocked & stunned!!!

Quote: Originally Posted by BachataBride Hmmmm...I"m really bad & this sort of thing, but here goes!!! Pals & Purses Purse Pals Habilitate with Handbags Handbag Habits Addicting Accessories Notice I like keeping the two letters the same!! LOL Just a thought - anyway you can throw shoes in there too!?! You could make a killing!!! Good Luck! I LOVE "Addicting Accessories" it's SO catchy!! Bachata - you are so creative

That is wonderful news for you and your family!!!! I'm so happy for u!

I have no idea what to walk down the aisle too!! But I know our first dance song is "Someone Like You" by van morrison. It's our song

Glad to hear you've decided to do it! I think it's a great idea and am considering it myself

I'm sorry to hear about your losses I definitely think that on your wedding day you can choose whoever you want to walk you down the aisle. What does your daughter think? Does she want to walk with you, or have you asked her opinion on the best fit? I don't think you can make a wrong decision, so go with your gut! best wishes!

wow! I would be totally floored. People treat books so differently....some are very gentle, others are nutty! at least now you know not to loan her anything

Wow- great advice ladies! Thank you!! I took a lot of it! The first thing I did was call my mom (who is also the best friend of my bfs mom)...She said that clearly something else is going on here and these actions are not typical of my BF. She also suggested I confront her and just flat out state how extremely hurt I am by some of these things. So I did. I didn't admit to checking her email but I was still able to call her out on several lies and then played the card of "if you lie to me about that, what else are you lying about". I said I didnt understand the lies and some of the responses shes given me and its crushing given our history. I said when she talks to others I get the feeling shes changing my words or thoughts to appear right and I dont know why. I told her I cared about her but feel totally unjustified continuing to be there for her if this is how I'll be treated, etc. I said the most hurtful part is having a best friend who cannot be honest with you, for whatever reason...and that if she cannot communicate how she TRULY feels without fear that it will ruin our friendship then she must not view me as a very good friend! You know what the shocking thing is? She admitted all of it!!!!!!! She said that she doesnt know how to communicate and she has an obsession with being right and she doesnt know why and needs help getting over it. She admitted to being very private and not knowing how to communicate and watching me very social in our group of friends, and wanting to be the person everyone calls, but feeling like never will be, because people always call me. She cried about her upcoming wedding (july) and some fears she was having and admitted to being totally immature in some things shes done. She asked for my help...she thanked me for confronting her because she is so horrible at bringing things up or admitting fault. She cried and cried about how guilty she feels for what she put me through and doesnt know how to repair it. I think, in the end it just boils down to insecurity....she was looking for reassurance and was trying to get it in any way shape or form. we're working on it....but i was shocked by her honesty and admitting fault because that is very hard to do! Thanks again ladies!!! XOXO LOVE YOU ALL!

you girls are too sweet. thank u for understanding that i dont normally creep on people i just needed answers. What makes this situaiton SO bizzare is that she lies all the time (little white lies) to the point where even our circle of friends joke about it. She'll lie about completely irrelevant things like for instance her fiance was over and I asked him if there was any news on her job (it was up in the air) he told me this long story that was good news that she was keeping her job, but he said "dont tell her i told you, she'll want to tell you herself" so she came home and i was like "hey!! any word on the job" and her response was "nope, havent heard" its SO strange. why would you not tell your best friend that awesome news?? my FI said to me "jos, you knew you were going to find lies, thats just how she is". And I did know that, I was just hoping to also get to the root of her feelings about these issues we were having since she has a hard time commnicating or ever expressing how she feels. i thought maybe if I knew her feelings I could easily resolve the issue at hand by kind of "asking the right questions" if you know what I mean. well, then this other stuff was discovered. its all little but very hurtful and i guess I'm just lost.

Quote: Originally Posted by lisaloo79 I do know what you mean and why you did what you did. I did that ONCE in my life and it was with my ex. He was completely lying to me about hanging with my BF. Anyway, long story short, I just needed to know the truth and sure enough, there it was. They had been cheating (both of them were engaged to other people - WTF is wrong with them?) and that was the end of our relationship and my friendship with her. I do feel bad sometimes for doing what I did, but if I hadn't, I probably would have married the idiot! Anyway, it sounds like she's doing nasty things. If it were me, I would just end the friendship. What kind of friend does something like that? She certainly doesn't have your best interest at heart, at that's what friends are supposed to do!! Good luck with it all, it'll all work out in the end - it always does! *hugs* That is horrible!!!! I'm glad you found true love Thanks for the advice!

This might sound really strange, but I know the only reason she changed my wording is so that she could appear "in the right" and like i was wrong. Its very strange. i am actually really crushed right now because this is my MOH, my best friend since I was 5, our parents are best friends....we're currently roommates. Like I said, very long convoluted story and I'm pretty sure I worked my way into a hole that I can't get out of. Part of me feels like I cannot sever the friendship, but at least I now know not to put things in writing, and also to take what she tells me with a grain of salt.

I'm expecting to maybe get some harsh feedback from this thread...but wondering if anyone else has ever done this? I recently did this because I've been having issues with a friend and feeling like she repeatedly lies to me. Long long story but I just wanted to know if these things were true.....so I checked her email. Sure enough, I got confirmation that she was lying and also doing some other very strange things...including forwarding my emails to other people and changing the wording, etc. Obviously I'm stuck.... I can't tell her I checked her email, and I'm sick about what I saw! Do I just chalk this one up to me getting what I deserve for being so sneaky? Its not something I would normally do, but desperate times call for desperate measures!

I do like the material of the blue better But like style of the pink, if that makes any sense. I don't think you can go wrong though!

just venting about my horrific night! A small background is that FI & I just bought a house and officially moved in on saturday - woo hoo! He's adjusting to living with my VERY affectionate male cat. This cat always wants to be pet and is on your lap or following you around somewhere. (love it!) sooooooooooo after spending 4 hours decorating the back of a jersey for my BF...I'm MOH and her b-party is this weekend, we're doing a cubs rooftop! Anyway I had decorated this jersey with paint and written "bride" on the back of it as well as the number 11 (day shes getting married)....RIGHT after I finish, the cat pushes the door open and runs through the newely painted jersey. I scream (it was blood curdling) and next thing you know the cat is sprinting away and there are bright blue paw prints all over our brand new carpet! ahhhhhhhhhhhhh I just have to laugh. Which I can do after spending the next 2 hours trying to get those stains out! FI is convinced he can train the cat.............i wonder if he'll have any luck! Poor thing is staying far from FI after being yelled at so much last night!

To all my 11.28.09 brides - 6 months today!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Good Luck!!!!!! I'll keep you in my thoughts!!! Hope all goes well