Hi there- I just wanted to say that I am so sorry for your loss and the pain you've been experiencing. I would definitely recommend seeing someone for the same reasons that all of the other ladies have written.
I started having panic attacks last summer and went to see someone through my employer's counseling center and realized that a lot of things have happened in my life were just pushed aside and just talking to my counselor made me realize that the transition to being married and possibly having my own family someday was bringing up a bunch of old family issues that I had not dealt with. I no longer see her because I was given tools to help me better express myself and recognize when an issue needs dealing with.
Sometimes you just need someone to talk to who is not only impartial, but also I think talking to a counselor is so much different than talking to a friend or family member because sorting through your issues/concerns is the entire goal of your relationship with them. I think it helps just knowing that this person is expecting you to vent and voice your concerns and that they know that's exactly what you came for, ya know? I think once you go and get over the initial fear, you'll be surprised and may enjoy going!
Take care and let us know how it goes!