i know how you feel. I do not get along with my FMIL either. I have been with him for 19 years. In the beginning it was OK but she said some disrespectful things to me and I answered her back. That was the end of our relationship. It doesnt bother me but it bothers my FH. When he proposed, she told him to rethink it. He told her if she doesn't like then she shouldn't come to the wedding. My FH puts his foot down with her.