NJ_bride

I know my shower is September 6th and since our engagement party in December everyone keeps telling me I need to add more stuff. Well I did some and yes, a lot has been purchased but a lot was from people who aren't coming and already sent me gifts and other stuff my Mom, FH and godmother bought me for other occasions. I'm more afraid of what people got me not off the registries.

Today is the 100 day mark for me and time is really flying! This weekend is 1 year we have been engaged and I can't beleive it, thank god I pushed the wedding date farther than 1 year, never could have done everything in time. My invites came in going to address them this weekend. Got at least another month for my dress to come in. The past week I have been trying to clean out closets in my house cause my shower is in a week and a half and people have been sending me gifts already. Now I have to make some room! I need a vacation...

Hi Ashley! I see you are from NJ as well so I have a suggestion, raymour & flanigan allows you to create a wishlist as well as sells gift cards. I don't know if you have a specific set in mind but I bought mine there last year and love it! I'm buying the dining room next month. Check it out.

I totally agree with the other ladies, they are def. not a requirement. Since most of my 45 guests are travelers I'm doing more of a welcome gift than OOT bags. I'm using disposable gift bags I decorated that way people can throw them away if they don't want them. Inside I am putting a small bottle of rum, local coffee, and a coffee scoop, with a short welcome letter. I only have to bring the bags and scoops. The coffee and rum I am getting in Jamaica (delivered from a local company to me at the resort)I am really worried about luggage space so the less I had to bring the better! Think of it this way if you went to a wedding what would you like to get as a favor? Then consider people have to get this item home on a plane as well as all their own stuff.

I'm hoping someone can help me out with a question...FH asked me last night if he has to wear his wedding band on his left hand after the ceremony? We are both unsure of why the tradition is the left hand. We know some European's wear it on the right. I told him I don't care as long as he wears it. He! He! But he is worried if it will be bad luck if he wears it on his right. Any ideas?

Thanks for all the compliments! I bought all my stamps, ink, and bags at Michaels Crafts. I think they are nationwide. I saw the palm tree stamp in other places that sell stamps though. I also bought a sand dollar and thank you stamp for the tags (next step).

Don't worry about this at all, it will not look weird. I have an MOH and a Bridesmaid and FH is alone. He had to ask his Bestman and groomsman (both our brothers) not to come. What a mess! But FH says he will stand up for himself like he always has. Ha! Good way to handle it. Moral of my story: don't worry about numbers, have too's and traditions. Have who you really truly want and that's it, whatever the numbers!

I love this thread! We are including the following traditions: -he asked my Dad before he proposed -engagement party -Formal invitations but island themed! -bridal shower -Jordan almonds to represent: ITALIAN WEDDINGS Five almonds signify five wishes for the bride and groom: health, wealth, happiness, fertility, and longevity. These almonds decorate each place setting as favors, tucked into pretty boxes or tulle bags called *bomboniere* that are often personalized with the couple's names and wedding date. -Dad will give me away -1st dance -me and Dad, him w/Godmother(his mom is deceased) dance -will sleep apart and not see each other until ceremony -gifts for my parents who are the hosts We will not do the following traditions: -have the big NY/NJ Italian wedding with 500 people we had to invite out of obligation at $200 per person! -limos, church, programs -no kids invited -rehearsal dinner-having a welcome party instead for everyone -we have a Maid of Honor and a bridesmaid and that's it. FH had a Best man and groomsman both were asked to step down now he will stand up for himself. -gifts to eachother -going on honeymoon 3 months after wedding. - bouquet/garter tosses -stupid song/dances aka chicken dance -traditional processional music, I'm picking fun stuff -private sit down dinner I saw mentions of the dollar dance and the kidnapping the bride, I have been to weddings in the south and midwest and I love these traditions. I always tell FH that those weddings are soo much more fun than the stuffy affairs we have here. Here it is always about what you spend and not really personal at all. I'm gonna try to sneak a grooms cake in too.

I think my old will be my caribbean topaz necklace that FH bought me on our first vacation, new will be my dress, borrowed-I'm not sure yet and blue will be the ocean of course!

I got home from work yesterday to a nice surprise of 2 packages. I got the 20-50 cup DeLonghi coffee maker I registered for and 1 platter from my china and all my bathroom accessories! These were all from people invited to but not coming to my shower which is 2.5 weeks away. It was really nice of them. I'm a cooking queen so I really didn't need anything, I registered for all upgrades and china. My mom is buying me the kitchen aid mixer and I can't wait!

Hi Everyone! We booked our welcome party/dinner at Negril Escape Resort and I was wondering if anyone has been there or heard anything about the food and service? I read reviews on Tripadvisor but they were mostly about the resort itself not so much their events. Thanks!

Thanks Everyone! I stamped them on both sides. I got the idea from some bags I saw in a catalog. They wanted like $3/bag and I couldn't see spending that for something disposable. I love arts and crafts!

Click on the link below to see what I did this weekend. Snapfish: Share:Registration_Opt2

Dear MOH F-Off! Seriously, I hate you, where have you been for the last 8 months? Now 4 weeks before my shower you decide you want to change things, my other bridesmaid did everything, planned, consulted with me, FH, and my mother you couldn't be bothered. Now everything is set, booked, ect. I can't believe you had the nerve to call FH this morning at 8am to tell him you think the following people should be invited! YOU DON"T GET A VOTE! It is not your shower or wedding, I know that is really hard for a selfish bitch like you to get. This is why you are over 40 and alone! Your not my sister, never will be, not even a friend! Dear Brother: You are a drunk, dumbass, loser. I don't want you in my wedding or in my life. You embarrass me daily. Just an FYI, I will not be driving your licenceless ass to work anymore. Good job not calling out or showing up to work today, I hope our boss fires you! My life will be much more peaceful. Dear God, Thank you for giving me my way out with my brother. I hear you loud and clear! I'm not sure what the reason that you are putting FH and I through all this but we'll see! Dear Bottle of Vodka, I will be seeing you @ 6pm and will stay all weekend. You are always there when I need you. FH needs you too. Thanks for all your help!

We are getting them for FH, 2 groomsmen, our fathers, and godfathers. We are both close with godfathers and godmothers and they are some of our only family members coming. Nothing fancy though, single flower.

It's funny people keep asking me how I picked Dec. 5th date and I can't even remember except that it is a Friday and I thought it would be cheaper for people to fly on a weekday. Also wanted to be out of hurricane season. Although I have done a lot so far I am starting to feel very overwhelmed. Family problems seem to be mounting. Gonna get a pedicure today and have a great beach club day with my bridesmaid on Sunday.

Piece of advice...get rid of them now! I just wish I could ditch my MOH! She is FH's sister, was also my friend and hasn't even called, emailed, or text me in over a month! My shower is 1 month away completely paid for and organized by my other bridesmaid! (Who really deserves a metal or something!) I think MOH, she just wants the MOH title and free room, she didn't even go to pick out their dresses! I hate obligation, family, etc. Having a destination wedding really shows you who cares and who doesn't. FH said it best, on wedding day look around you, whomever is there and you can still bear to look at is who matters in life, write the rest off, live happily ever after!

Oh, this is a great thread. We started with a $15,000 budget from my very generous parents. That included invites, our air and room for 1 week, 4 bridal party's rooms for 3 nights, favors, cocktail hour(per person charge), dress, accessories, photographer (outside), Mento Band, and some other stuff. It really helps not to have to pay for booze, limos, churches, sit down dinners, ect.. In NJ weddings are like $40,000 and up. We went to one recently that cost over $100,000! Then when our AI became fully booked by parents raised it to like $20,000 b/c they are gonna pay the day passes for whomever has to stay at another resort. FH and I are paying for a welcome party off resort. I am trying to find my favors on sale and cut costs other ways. If anything we shouldn't have paid for bridal parties rooms, they really don't deserve it! But other than that we are good.

I also have the same VS white bikini. It is the closest I could find to strapless. I am a 34DD and it isn't the greatest support, a good sunbathing only suit. Buying bikinis is my only complaint about having a large top.

Dear self: Find the strength not to push your or FH siblings off cliffs in Jamiaca. (Should have not picked any of them for wedding party!) Get rid of pounding headache Find new friends since none of yours are coming to wedding Stop fighting with FH about family, his and yours, live our own lives! Continue hard work at gym, 9 lbs down, 10 to go!

It's really true that whomever you think will come won't and vice versa. We both have huge families and yet are getting like 2 people from each of them. Lots of people PO'd that it's not a "real" wedding. My one Aunt even told me I was being selfish b/c I was excluding the family. I invited everyone. Maybe it is selfish but this is my dream wedding, never pictured it any other way. FH just wants me to be happy. We are having a welcome dinner Thursday, ceremony with cocktail reception and beach party on Friday. I don't really want to plan more than that b/c I want people to do what they like and take advantage of the AI's. Does that sound like enough?

We are having our DW in Jamaica with 45 people booked so far, we invited about 200. Just wondering how many people others invited and what kind of turn out they got? As well as any advice for a group this size. We have people staying 3 other resorts besides ours

Since we are getting married on a Friday we really had no options for a private reception. So we are having a cocktail party in the garden for 2 hours following the 4pm ceremony we are gonna have hot and cold apps and the mento band. Then we will all go to the resorts Beach Party for dinner and the show. I really hope it is nice but other CSA brides assured me it is and they are reserving tables for our whole group (45 booked as of now). We also booked a welcome dinner the night before at Negril Escape since we now have people staying in 3 other resorts since CSA is sold out. Anybody know about the food at CSA?

Great to see a December Bride thread! My wedding id December 5th, 4pm, Couples Swept Away. Here's my to do: -Pick up and get rings engraved -Order and mail invitations -Have fittings for my dress and bridesmaids when they come in -Music for ceremony/first dance -Have a makeup try -Order favors for bags -Buy lingerie -Gifts for parents -Finsih getting gifts for bridal party -Get veil material (Saturday) -Get groomsmen's and father's alterations done I have done: -STD sent -Had hairstyle tried here -booked resort/ceremony/plane tickets -booked cocktail reception/band/photographer -ordered dresses -bought shoes/tiara -bought some bridal party gifts -registered -booked welcome party dinner -Booked honeymoon -Bought gift bags -Got guys outfits Time is going so quick now! So far we have 45 booked, feel bad for the people who waited they really are paying more and our resort is completely booked, already have people staying at 3 other resorts in Jamaica. -

Thank you everyone for the welcomes. We are staying at Couples Swept Away and that is where our ceremony is too. Have 43 guests booked. We are also having a welcome dinner at Negril Escape. Overall planning is going great. Only bad thing is we have a 75% deadbeat bridal party. Oh well, live and learn...