NJ_bride

Fun thread! I have my original bear and blanket from a baby, they are packed away. When the bear got to threads i got a stuffed dog named Butch, still have him too although Mom had to restuff him a few times. When i was in HS my boyfriend broke up with me and my coworkers gave me a giant stuffed duck to cheer me up, he stayed in my bed. FH hated the duck so our 1st Xmas he bought me a gaint teddy bear which was a big mistake b/c I still won't give him up. I can't cuddle with FH when i sleep, I cuddle with the bear. FH calls him Drooly bear cause he says I drool in my sleep! I guess after the wedding I got to get him out of the bed...lol! Also I have my kids, my 2 build a bear puppies, Poopie and Dufas. I will post a pic some day. FH built both of them for me and we spend countless hours doing funny things with them and making up crazy stories. We should write children's books or something... I also have the giant rubbermaid of my animals, can't give them up!

Kevsgirl: LMAO about not making you look like the people in the store! My FH calls them the clownie people. But no, I did not look anything like that, very light, natural, I couldn't even feel I was wearing make up and I never ever wore foundation in my life! Simistar: He gave me a hand mirror to use while he did the makeup, so i could see how he did it. He explained why he was using every product and how to apply it. I'm good with make up and very familiar with their products and still learned some tricks. At the end he made me an eye chart which is a pic of the eye and where he put each color and the color name so I can follow it at home. In my experiences with MAC just tell them you don't know how to use a product and they will show you even if you just stop by the counter in a department store. arhoyaltres: Happy Bday and bachlorette!

Hi Ladies! So I had a really fun and productive weekend. I had my makeup trial at MAC and I looked gorgeous! I should have taken pics but you will all see the look in my wedding picks. If anyone lives in NY or NJ Philip at the MAC store in Short Hills is unbelievable. I haven't felt that pretty in a long time. I also completed my letter for the welcome bags, wrapped gifts for attendants, surveyed FH and I's clothees for week of trip, and picked up some travel items. The best part of my weekend is that I recieved a phone call yesterday that my friend and her boyfriend booked for my wedding. I am soo excited, this is the girl whom I was best friends with and had a falling out but have since rekindled the friendship. Her presence is very important to me, I'm soo excited! That leaves us with 47 total attending! My diet is going great and the weight is really coming off. 2nd fitting on a Wednesday night! 25 days to go!

Hi ladies! This weekend I am going to MAC for a test run of makeup. I am also gonna write the letter for my welcome bags and think about place cards. Got to get some of FH's resort wear to the tailor. This week I ordered my favors and confirmed stuff with the resort WC and the manager for the place for our welcome dinner. Oh, and I started tanning yesterday. I think I'm on schedule! Happy weekend to everyone!

Hi ladies, thanks for checking up on me. Well I did go that night and talk to my Dad. I made a list a head of time and we talked about everything. He said he was giving me the $ as a gift even if he didn't come to the wedding. I was like Dad I don't care about the $ but you guys made it about that. He claims he doesn't remember saying he wouldn't pay if FH didn't come talk to him. That is what happens when you drink too much! I walked away from the conversation feeling proud of myself for saying how I felt but sad that my Dad is just not the person i want him to be. I just don't feel the father daughter bond. With the stress of not having to come up with $15,000 in 2 months, FH decided to pick his father as a best man, he is happy with it I guess, still no bachelor party, no support, nothing. My MOH (FH's sister) still doesn't care but at this point I'm over it, she is a MOH in title only and I don't see us continuing a friendship after this. Shouldn't be hard cause FH wants nothing to do with her either. My brother has booked to come stay at another resort with his girlfriend, all i have to say is whatever. As FH said let's just hope he doesn't pick our wedding to make his comeback. And to answer the question, yes he has a big drinking problem! FH's brother and his "fiancee" are still not coming, and all I have to say is thank god because they would try to ruin it! The same people that gave us hell about not postponing and all are planning their own wedding, wait by my calandar it hasn't been a year so WTF!!! Hypocrites! My father and FH still have not talked and probably never will, oh well. FH and I have had a peaceful 2 months since we decide to just handle our own families. He goes when he wants to visit his, i do the same. We leave each other out of it and don't make the other one go. I'm very happy with this agreement. I am truly looking forward to our wedding. It is not at all the way we thought it would be but that's life. I am marrying the person I love in the place I want so all is good. I know too that after December 5th i will breath a huge sigh of relief that FH and I can finally start our life together!

Here's is a different way to look at it. If you had a wedding at "home" would these people come? If yes, why? Because it was easy, cheap, convenient? Well, I've learned the hard way that the people that are willing to make the effort of traveling, saving money, and trying something new are the ones who really count, the others are the "fillers" in life. I know that sounds harsh but it took me over a year to get it. Today it's the cost, tommorow the traveling, then the time of year. Excuses are excuses and when trying to plan the wedding of your dreams you really don't want to hear them. A simple we can't make it is all you need to know. People got to stop with the guilt! Good luck!

Congratulations Danielle! Hope it was everything you dreamed!

My friend makes the most awesome guac dip in the world. My shower wishing well was for everyone to bring me a recipe of theirs and she gave it to me. I will post it for you when i get home. I was at her house last Saturday and she made it, yum!

Bachatabride you are absolutely right. (although I like to believe he was left on their door step)

Michelle, buy the Betty Crooker standard cookbook (they even have a brides addition) these are the basics but great b/c you learn techniques and there is every type of recipe. I self taught from this book when I was a teenager now I can make anything. FH's friends are soo jealous b/c their wives can't boil water and I throw awesome dinner parties. For our house warming 2 years ago I did all Asian apps (egg rolls, dumplings, chicken satay, sesame pork tenderloin, fried rice, cheese wontons, ect even all the dipping sauces). I cooked for 2 days but it was worth it, there wasn't a thing left and people are still talking about it! I can talk about cooking for hours, it is my favorite hobby and very relaxing for me. I bake too, but that gets me in trouble cause I love homemade desserts. I agree with kat81 about the slow cooker, great way to start off. Soups, stir frys, and pastas are easy. Meats are harder but once you get it you get it.

I am a bookkeeper for a tangible asset company.

My confession is that I think FH's family are the worst people in the world and if I never see any of them again I would be thrilled.

Amy, we are at 1 month today, I can't believe it! I started to panic a little, LOL!

Selina, my advice is listen to the other girls, this is the person that is supposed to support you, not create problems. I had the same problems with my MOH. Take her out now, if she can't make the dress shopping she won't make anything else a proirty, trust me. My MOH didn't come to pick my dress or hers, I have many posts on here about my situation, you can search them to get the story of my problems but I can't rehash as I am 1 month away from my wedding today. All I can say is boot her now, pick someone great and enjoy everything! If I could I would go back and do the same. Good luck!

I have been going to the gym 4 days a week since February (with a month off in August) Each day I run 20 minutes on the treadmill and alternate abs, arms, legs, and shoulders. To date I lost 10lbs. This week FH and I started the South Beach diet. We will be to stage 3 by the wedding. This should get rid of the last 5lbs for me.

Hi Sarah! Welcome to the forum. I am a CSA bride too! Decemeber 5th, 2008. Can't wait!

Username: NJ_bride Name: Danielle & Anthony Location: Couples Swept Away, Negril Wedding Date: December 5th, 2008 In JA: 12/2/08-12/9/08

Dolfinluck, We lost power the day of the storm and it came back on at 8:30 that night. We did not have cable or internet until last night. Such strange weather. Do you know where you are getting married yet?

Abbie, apparently like 50% of Americans have this! You can buy it at Sephora or Sephora.com, I think Dermadoctor has their own website too!

Hi Dolfinluck! You live in Flemington? I live in Glen Gardner, small world!

I have the St Ives scrub, never tried it for that, always for my face, I'll check it out, thanks! I'm buying the DermaDoctor and hoping for the best!

Maura: Thanks, do you use it at night or day? How many times per/day?

Ok Ladies, so this is the red bumps that look like chicken skin. I have them on my upper arms. I have seen a dermatologist when I was younger and they gave me a really thick, Rx cream to put on at night but if you forgot for one day they came right back. Hence I stopped that. Well with a sleeveless gown I want my arms bump free so has anyone used DermaDoctor KP? I want to try it but before I dish out $36 i would like some reviews. Anyone else suffer from this?

Jamie, I think it is really good that you confronted her now. I, like yourself, like to avoid things. I took the "confront the situation early" approach with my MOH. Here is the thing she didn't bow out gracefully, she has stayed in her role yet done nothing. I know she has had a really bad year and I could tell her heart isn't in it. It has been really hard for me to keep from getting mad at her b/c this is a once in a lifetime for me and she is supposed to be my #1 person. I would have stepped down in her shoes. So for most of this year I have thought as BDW as my MOH, that sounds strange but this is where I come for advice, to vent, and to be excited for my wedding! My point is atleast you will be able to salvage a friendship with this girl, I will not. The worst part is that she is FH's sister and I can never truly end a relationship with her. I wish you the best with your friend and your wedding!

Rachel- that part about being released from bondage, LMAO! FH runs around saying how he is free from family obligation forever now! It is true, now OUR priorities change. Sunbride- that part about your friend watching the video and crying I really hope some of my friends/family members feel that way. I know I have missed a few weddings/events when i was younger and I always feel like I missed out. I keep pointing out that when it is all over I know FH and I will feel much closer to the 45 people that made it a priority than anyone else who didn't. I mean come on there is a reason I'm spending all this extra money for a great photographer, there is no chaning the fact you didn't come so eat your heart out people! LOL!