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LOL Rachel....... Honestly, I don't want others joing in.....I feel that our first dance is a special, intimate moment about US and nobody else. When we hear this song, we want to think about us and not other people jumping in.

Quote: Originally Posted by IrieBride08 Why don't you "serenade" with a special dance? I think that would be so romantic! One of my girlfriends is a dancer and at their wedding reception, she performed a solo dance just for him. The groom sat in a chair and she danced around him and he looked on cloud 9! This way, he won't feel pressured to perform, but you still get a choreographed beautiful and romantic dance. This is my suggestion! OMG.........I ABSOLUTELY LOVE this idea!!!

Quote: Originally Posted by Morgan I personally wouldn't make him do it. learning to dance should be fun. if it's not fun for him too, I'd skip it. I was at a friends playing board games & her roomate was taching her FI to dance before their wedding. She was getting so mad at him because he couldn't do it. She was yelling at him & I'm sure he felt terrible. It's really frustrating to not be able to get something & the worse you feel about it the worse it gets. it comes natural to some people, but others just can't do it. Just do the 8th grade rock & fade out the song. Have you thought about making a routine with some BMs or guests? I love to dance & my friends & I have a silly routine we do. no, I don't want to skip it.......it's important to me and I don't want to make him feel uncomfortable, but I really don't want to not have a "first dance". And as far as my guests or friends, half of them haven't even rsvp'd yet, and I'm not having a bridal party, so no BM or MOH.....and plus, there is no one else that I'd rather dance with other than my FI.

Quote: Originally Posted by mauraw my friend was in the same boat so they took dance lessons, but then on their wedding day he was so uncomfortable and so nervous about dancing, he totally forgot all the steps. she was so pissed, and it shows in their photos. it looked like they were having the worst time, and you could see her counting out the numbers for the steps so he would follow, but he just couldnt. haha so dont expect too much from a FI that can't dance, do what is comfortable for him because otherwise he will just end up looking like a horse's ass LOLOLOL........this is so true......i told him that if he wanted to, he can just stand their and I would dance around him, but then he just thinks that I'm being an attention whore!! I just love to dance and of all nights to dance, I want it to be on my wedding night!!!

Quote: Originally Posted by chonda25 I would suggest that you take dance lessons. I am in the same boat. I think I convince him to take lessons with me so that we or should I say, so he can move and not look like a statue. I don't want to take dance lessons, because i am the one doing the choreography, I'm essentially giving him the lesson but he is so distracted and clumsy.......lol I even tried to make it fun for him by telling him that he can choreograph some of the steps also........he says okay, and then just stands their rocking from side to side. LOL I want us to practice more, but then he thinks I'm hounding him.

We finally started choreographing our First Dance. I LOVE to dance and studied dance for over 15 years. My FI, on the other hand, can't move both feet at the same time My dilema.......i want to really dance and "show off" for our first dance, but the way things look for now, he would be more comfortable just standing in one spot and gently rocking from side to side. I'm trying my best to "teach" him, but I don't really think that he wants to learn. I'm getting a little frustrated, but trying to be patient with him because I know that he is not a dancer, but ARRRrrrggghhhh!!!!! i hope he doesn't see this post

hmmm.....another thing to add to my long list. I didn't even think about this until now. thanks for sharing.

thanks for the pic 12piece.....i'm doing our dinner at the Plantation. Does anyone know the color of the plates at the Plantation? Are they orange like at Mammee bay?

Quote: Originally Posted by JamaicaBride062108 You can glue or you can iron. If you get hemming tape from the fabric/craft store, you just roll it along the edge like reglar tape, fold the seam over, then iron. This might be a better option for some of the lighter fabrics so you don't get glue lines. That sounds great and easy enough!! Does it matter what type of fabric I use? Most likely it will have a satin finish. I want to make sure that I have the correct measurements for the tables at Riu Ocho Rios first before I start.

Quote: Originally Posted by carly I was thinking runners as well. I think I am going to make some for my AHR and they should be simple and cheap, jsut for a splash of color, cuz I am anti-all white. I might even do a runner on every other table, but a different color-adding thing to the other tables. Carly, how are you making yours? Will you just purchase the fabric and cut and sew yourself? I heard of this type of fabric glue that people use to hem, so if i can find it, I may use that....cause I darn sure can't sew.....lol

Quote: Originally Posted by cheese_diva I don't think you would even have to sew them.. they have this fabric glue (think of a dryer sheet) that you put between the layers and iron.. it fuses them together and will probably suffice for such a project.. What is the name of this product and where can I find it?........i'm feeling a bit inspired today and i think that I want to try to make my own runners also!!

Quote: Originally Posted by dragonfly I second that idea, some std info also and no this time it does not mean "save the date" save the date............LOLOLOLOLOLOL Thanks gyals!!! I'm feeling a bit better today. I was very emotional last night but I will talk with him tonight and let him know how i feel. I just don't want him to feel like I'm trying to "put the handcuffs" on him already.......and I know his "boys" will just make the situation worse.

i knew you would feel better just in time!! Get ready to have loads of fun. Congrats again......and remember to take LOTS and LOTS of pictures. :-)

Quote: Originally Posted by chibi411 wow... how old are these people? all that blows my mind. good luck and i hope things work out. you really need to talk to the FI They are in their late 20's / early 30's..........too damn old for this nonsense. Everytime I try to talk to him about this sort of issue, he makes it sound as if I'm being "insecure" or that I'm making a big deal out of nothing and over-reacting.

OMG.......thank you so much ladies. I didn't know if it was just me because I am pms'ing right now and super sensitive. I expressed to him that I was upset about the focus being shifted away from our big day! He didn't understand why I was upset. I don't really want to address it again tonight, because I'm already stressed enough. Oh and i forgot to mention that another one of his friends that he hasn't spoken to since 2002 "heard" that we were getting married in Jamaica......he called and left a message saying, I want to go........he PRETTY MUCH INVITED HIMSELF and my FH called him back and casually gave him the details for our wedding. This is not a damn barbeque.....this is a formal event that requires a guest list and INVITE. Not a freaking "free for all"

or is everyone fuc&ing inconsiderate!!! I am so annoyed right now. Okay, I've dealt with the LACK of rsvp's and the LACK of trip deposits, but my FH's (male) family members and friends are jerks!! His brothers keep hounding him wanting to know if the women are HOT in Jamaica and where they can find some "smoke"! His friends keep calling him and mentioning stuff about a "bachelor party".......NOT ONCE have any of them actually showed interest in us GETTING MARRIED. That's seems to be the last thing on their mind. What really took the cake is that my FH actually asked me if I would get upset if he left the resort one night to go out to the club with his friends/brothers..... Am I being irrational? I just feel like this is not a spring break trip! THis is our wedding!!!! AArrrrgghhhH!!!!!

Thanks for the great advise Twixygrl! Your absolutely right. Honestly, I wanted a BP for all of the wrong reasons. My fiance mentioned that his buddies wanted to throw something for him when he gets on the island (keep in mind that all of his friends are single man-hors!!) I guess I kinda got a little jealous and felt like a looser because I don't have anything planned......and it just made it WORSE that not 1 of my so-called friends even mentioned the thought of planning or attending a BP in my honor. I"m just gonna let it go.

I also ordered mine from ebay. Hopefully i will receive it later this week. I am planning to add some bling to it myself: Wedding Cake Top/Topper-Silver 3 Initials Monogram- NEW - eBay (item 120226059042 end time Mar-01-08 13:50:54 PST)

Everything will turn out fine. Rest up and just think about all the fun your going to have in 5 days!!

thanks so much Autum!!! His pictures would just serve as "backup". There is NO WAY that I'm ditching my REAL photographer for him. She is shooting my wedding in Jamaica as well. She's great! I love your work also!

Quote: Originally Posted by Morgan Your recent pics are so great I don't think it's worth your time. Look at the part (i think in his blog) where he shows samples of the free sessions. Aww man.......the pictures are not showing up. I can't see!!

There is no way I am using him for my wedding pics, but since he had offered a free engagement session, I thought that would be okay. I have mixed feelings about this now. If I do use him for the free shoot, i will draw up a contact to guarantee that I will get my pictures.......off to check out his website again. Here is the most recent shoot that i did with a PROFESSIONAL photographer. Our pics are the first 5 on the page: Journal - Punam Bean Photography

Quote: Originally Posted by cheese_diva Oh Wow! She has a very different style of photography. That's done in Photoshop, right? Very cool! Yes, she certainly does. She's very creative and artistic. I think she uses different lenses for different looks. I am looking forward to seeing the rest of them.......i'm anxious to see if she took any close-ups. Thanks for all the compliments gals!!! I will NEVER get threaded again. My bumbs are just now starting to go away. It's not worth having perfect eyebrows. I'll just go back to waxing.

just updated: Journal - Punam Bean Photography

WTF!!!!!!!! OMG!! I have a shoot sheduled with him at the end of the month. HE sent me a pm saying that he was doing FREE engagement shoots in LA for the month of MAy, so i said what the hell, okay. He said that I would get all of the negatives and a copy of the CD for free also. I didn't know that he was aka BDW Stalker. Should i be concerned?