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#1 nylalany

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    Posted 03 January 2008 - 03:33 AM

    I've read that it is not proper to put wording of wedding attire on the invitation unless it is black tie or black tie optional. So I'm trying to decide whether to put it on my insert or to just put it on my website, or maybe neither. Mostly, I'm having trouble with coming up with the right phrase.

    My wedding is on the sand on the beach, and the place just has a palapa and I'm renting a dance floor (which willl be placed on the sand), but I want an elegant beach wedding - like how people get dressed up on the beach in movies in Havana or Miami or wherever...

    Was thinking "Tropical Cocktail Attire, jackets & ties optional" -- to encourage women to wear warm weather cocktail dresses and men to wear linen or lightweight suits if they have them, and otherwise to just come dressed nicely in a dressy shirt and pants, without being too hot or uncomfortable. But then I'm wondering if I should just skip putting anything, and if people will just assume they should dress like they would for a summer wedding? I don't want people to come too dressed up and then be hot and uncomfortable, but I don't want it to be just sundresses and polo shirts either...Should I skip putting something on the insert and just write some dressing advice on my wedding event webpage?

    #2 Jones4Me

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      Posted 03 January 2008 - 11:34 AM

      I agree that you should give them the head's up if this is important to you. You also might have your families and attendants passing the word around.

      #3 AlmostMrsForbes

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        Posted 03 January 2008 - 11:47 AM

        I think that in situations like these (weddings/parties/celebrations), people appreciate the direction. I definitely think you can include it.

        I would probably just put it on the website. Then, you can include an insert with your invitations that directs people to your wedding website for more information. You can phrase it in a cute manner on the website ... "tropical cocktail attire" or "beach chic" or "resort wear." I then when on to give examples on my page.

        #4 katrina


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          Posted 03 January 2008 - 01:29 PM

          i gave direction for the attire on the website and i will also do so on the newsletter update i send out. i like "beach formal" :)

          #5 Jenn

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            Posted 03 January 2008 - 01:55 PM

            I don't think you need to put it in the invite, but I would definitely put it on your website or wedding update, etc. We called ours beach chic, and gave examples. We were looking for a little less formal, but this is what's on my website (liberally borrowed from other BDW gals):

            So what do I wear to the wedding? We're calling it Beach Chic - no need to wear a ballgown or tux, but its still a wedding! Ladies, a fun summer sundress, skirt or capris would be perfect. It may get chilly at night, so think about bringing a pashmina or light jacket.

            Guys, linen pants or khakis are great with a short sleeve button down or hawaiian shirt. No ties or shorts please :-)

            Be kind to your feet - we will be walking in the sand. Flip flops are appropriate for everyone, including the bride and groom!

            #6 ACDCDCAC

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            Posted 11 January 2008 - 02:31 PM

            Hopels, thats great, thanks for the wording!
            I "oopsed" and did a very similar thread without searching first, but I think I'm gonna stick with the Beach Formal wording, along with the description above.

            #7 KLaBate54

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              Posted 06 May 2009 - 11:39 AM

              This thread is a little outdated, so I'm just wondering what everyone is currently doing, if anything, in terms of commuicating wedding attire to their guests. I was thinking of putting something on my website, such as the previously mentioned "beach formal," but I'm looking of a cute way of saying it...I would like to discourage people from wearing jeans or jean shorts and encourage them to wear flip flops as opposed to formal dress shoes.

              #8 Amarillis

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                Posted 06 May 2009 - 11:59 AM

                We opted to tell guests "Beach Chic" and all abided!

                #9 sunsetbride1

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                  Posted 06 May 2009 - 12:08 PM

                  We went with the 'Beach Chic' wording as well... I also put a note on our website and our pre-travel newsletter asking guests not to wear black or white for photographic purposes.

                  #10 Sammygurlj

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                    Posted 06 May 2009 - 12:24 PM

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