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@@veryvalentine. My aunt passed away several years ago. She helped my mom raise us and lived with us since I was a baby so she was a veryy very special person to me. I never let anyone sit in her chair at the dinner table. Still dont. But alot of people felt akward which is their problem. But a memorial candle is another idea also for you to consider. I think honoring your mother is beautiful and she will be right there with you post-278682-142915129164_thumb.png

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Did your mom have a favourite flower? Another option might be to put a single one of her favourites on the chair. That way no one would sit there and you maybe could make sure someone else sits in the chair beside. I've seen it also where there is one single red rose on the empty chair, which I think is beautiful. I lost my mom when I was 15. Shes been gone over 40 years now. They say it gets easier with time. In some ways it does but for something special like a wedding I think in certain ways it's harder. I love the picture brooch thing too. I had a piece of my mom's jewellery pinned to my bouquet. The memory candle is also a beautiful idea.

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@@veryvalentine I'm sorry to hear about your mom. My dad passed away when I was only 6 years old but still miss him dearly. I get sad at the thought of not having a father/daughter dance but I know he'll be there in spirit. My mom raised three kids on her own and I admire her for her strength. So it was a no brainer that she will be walking me down the aisle. I did want to honour my dad so thanks to @@calgarybride2015 I will be attaching a locket with his photo to my bouquet. My mom never remarried so I will be saving a seat for my dad at the front with a framed phrase that states "Dad, you would be here today if heaven wasn't so far away".

 

For the reception, I will have a frame that states, "Those we love don't go away, they walk beside us everyday, unseen, unheard but always near. Still loved, still missed and held so dear". This will be in honour of my dad, my grandfather and Derrick's grandmother who have all passed away. This may be an option for you if you don't want to make it awkward for anyone.

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@@Wafflesmom You gave me goosebumps. My dad was left with 3 kids to raise too after my mom passed away. My sister and I were older but my brother was only 6. He had a bit of a crisis when he was about 20 years old because he couldn't remember what she looked like anymore. My sister and I copied pictures that we had and made an album for him to keep. My dad never remarried either.

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@@acw271011 when my dad passed away, my mom was left to take care of an 8 year old, 6 year old and 3 year old. His last year was spent in the hospital since he was having treatment for intestinal cancer. I do get sad at times not knowing if the memories I have of him are real or if they're made from stories and pictures. My younger brother doesn't remember him too much.

 

My mom never remarried and basically sacrificed her social life to raise the three of us. I can't ever repay her enough for her sacrifice. She's my hero and role model. If I could have even an ounce of her strength, I'd consider myself lucky!

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You guys are making me cry!

I was 23 when my mom passed away and we almost lost her when I was a baby, so I'm thankful I had her for as long as we did. She never got to meet my kids or my husband but we talk about her a lot. Hugs ladies

 

 

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Hugs back to you @@calgarybride2015, I'm glad you had many years with your mom! I'm sure she's watching over your kids ????

 

and hugs to all you ladies too. I made myself cry while writing the post! Derrick got concerned lol

 

I don't know how I'm gonna keep my composure when I say my speech to my mom. Thank god for waterproof mascara!

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All of these stories are so touching.  Thank you for sharing. 

I lost my mom at 23 years as well.  It was really sudden, my first major loss, first major heart break.  I really had to do a lot of work to work through the grief.  I eventually became a grief counsellor to honour her memory and help others. 

I honour her memory every day, so I don't want to make it like a mini memorial for her...but like @@calgarybride2015 said, everyone at the wedding either knew her or knew of her. 

 

One idea I thought of is to do a toast for her during my speech in her honour.

 

Thanks for all the ideas ladies.  hugs!  :)  @wafflesmom  @@acw271011

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I lost my mom 18 years ago so I know how you feel. I think you should put the chair where YOU want to put it. It's your day and she's your mother.

 

My mom died from breast cancer so in lieu of wedding favors I made a donation in her memory. The breast cancer society has a tie the knot program and gave me business size cards and pink ribbons for everyone.

 

I hope everything turns out the way you want and that you have the best day! Our moms would want it that way :)

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My heart aches for all you ladies. I am glad I still have my mom with me but I lost my dad 4 years ago very very suddenly. No chance to say goodbye to him and I miss him dearly. Think about him every single day. As soon as I got engaged my amazing bestfriend bought me a locket with my dads picture in it so that I can attached it to my wedding bouquet. She engraved with a little saying that my father and I use to say to eachother. I will also have a memorial candle and his picture on our cake table. My mom will walk me down the aisle and I plan on having a mother/daughter dance but to the song that I danced with my father at my baptism. I plan on having an empty chair next to my mom and will walk down the aisle with a single white rose and place it on the chair.

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