Originally Posted by newbiebridetobe
I have to weigh in on this one...because I FEEL YOUR PAIN!!!
During our invitation time my future mother in-law pulled something similar. It was decided that my FI would deal with it. Unfortunately he caved and we were left inviting people I had never met before (friends of his parents) and people that WE just didn't want to be there. If I had to go back and do it again I think I would have planned a firm sit-down with both of our parents and laid down the ground rules re: invites. That potentially could have saved some stress and grief. I have since let that one go....only because I had to....it's not worth it to let it ruin your day.
We are now three weeks away and we have had one couple (who were not invited) book, apparently because they think it's a fun crowd coming (which it is!). My FI friends are also dating some young girls and apparently they think that it's ok for them to invite their friends as well. We now have a few girls jump on the trip who were not invited as well.
I still can't wrap my head around what some people are thinking inviting themselves to someone elses wedding. My FI and I have chatted about it and we think people a) probably thing the wedding is not costing us anything therefore they could just come (boy, are they incorrect!) and people probably don't consider the trip to be an extension of the wedding day (i.e., they think that they can just come on the trip uninvited but not come to wedding).
We have decided to bite our tougues and include everyone in the wedding. Yes, this has involved more money and some last minute planning but it is worth it to us to keep people happy.
The exception to this is if any of these people make me feel uncomfortable leading up to or on my wedding day. If that's the case then the "keeping people happy" plan goes out the window and I will have no problem telling people that they are no longere welcome to attend!
Bottomline......you are not alone. In the end you need to do what is best for you and your FI.
wow that really sucks that people would invite their friends that you didnt invite...that is a lot different than bringing a guest to room with! no would ever do that st a non-DW!
either way your day will be beautiful and perfect and I guess at this point you just have to try to ignore it and not let it ruin your day:/