I was married on April 16 and this has been bothering me ever since so I hope someone else feels the same way I do. It seems that since we decided to have a destination wedding that no one has taken it seriously and I feel I've been "ripped off" in some areas.
For starters there almost wasn't a stagette for me. If it wasn't for a friend of mine calling my mother 2 weeks before we left it never would have happened. So with only a week before we left for Mexico a very short notice party was arranged. It was nice to have a little gathering before leaving for Mexico but with such short notice not that many were able to attend and not one person brought a gift. Now don't get me wrong I wasn't expecting gifts or in any need of things but come on, a card would have been nice.
Departure Day - this wedding had been in the works for a year and I planned my heart out, right down to making everyone in flight snack packs with homemade seahorse & starfish cookies, gum, snacks, customized brochure, etc. Out of the 35 people who travelled with us I think about 3 thanked me.
OOT Bags - again a year's of work and these were handed out during a welcome dinner at the resort and I can tell you that exactly 3 people personally thanked me for the gifts.
Husband's Brother & Sister in Law - my husband has one brother and he's only 2 years older than him. They get along fine but they couldn't find the time to call us before we left to congratulate us or wish us luck. They didn't come to the wedding b/c at first they couldn't affort it - then went and bought a new truck & camper. 2nd excuse was b/c their daughter is diabetic and from what friends told them about the DR (hello, we're not going there, we're going to Mexico) she would get sick and no one would be able to help her b/c doctors in 3rd world countries don't know how to treat diabetics. His niece's birthday was the day after we got home so went to visit them and they didn't congratulate us or ask about the trip. We brought it up and still just blank expressions.
Wedding Night - we had our wedding at a private location on the resort that required a shuttle to get back and forth. When the night was over and the shuttle came to pick us up everyone jumped on leaving myself, my husband & my mother with our hands full of flowers, shoes, etc. No one offered to get off and let us on even though it was obvious that we were struggling to carry/hold everything until I made a slightly too loud comment about the bride & groom getting priority.
Arrival Home - since we come home we have received exactly 5 cards, 3 from guests who travelled with us.
We did not get married for the gifts/money but I just feel like everyone has forgotten about us, whats wrong with sending a card with congratulations.
Oh and here's another good one about a week before we left I got an email from my TA asking if it was alright for 2 people whom I've never met to go to the wedding and reception - WTF? Long story short 2 of our guests switched tour operators and these 2 strangers filled their places and as it turned our were friends of my aunt. My answer was no since I did not want to pay for 2 more people whom I've never met or pack more items for the ceremony decor for them. I did say it was ok for them to come after the dinner and join the reception - what a mistake! They guy was a total ass and made some really rude comments through out the evening.