Originally Posted by LKocelko
How are all you ladies handling the whole bridal shower situation? We are only inviting siblings and parents, and then having an AHR/nice dinner at a restaurant a few months after we get back. I know etiquette states you are only supposed to invite people to a shower who are invited to the wedding, in which case it's silly to have one. But since we're doing something after we're back and inviting all extended family, friends, etc., would it be appropriate to have one? My MOH wants to throw one, but I don't want to offend anyone. The rules get more confusing with a DW!
I told my bridal party they really didn't have to throw me a bridal shower or a bachelorette party since they were already spending so much money just to attend the wedding in Mexico. They wouldn't hear of it. They are insisting on doing both. I also have several people that are attending the wedding (some in other parts of the country) that are really looking forward to the shower and keep emailing or texting me to make sure whoever is doing my shower knows to let them know early so they can make arrangements to get to Atlanta for it.
I don't think there are any hard and fast rules anymore. For me I think because it's been a while since we've had a wedding in our family that people are just really excited and they want ALL the experiences that go with it. I know sometimes it's hard to have the spotlight on you but I say when people want to support and celebrate you, let them! :-)
As far as inviting people that aren't invited to the ceremony, I think that's a personal decision as well. Because we had a large guestlist for the wedding, I didn't really invite anyone that wasn't invited because I was trying to minimize the expense for my girls. But I definitely invited all the women that were invited to the wedding which probably was still about 70 or so people. If we were inviting only a few people to the wedding, I probably would have invited more people to the shower, not for the gifts but because I think people would have appreciated being included. Especially if you're planning to invite them to your AHR when you get back.