"Friends" would not go around talking about you behind your back. Yet, they would offer constructive criticism followed with ways to correct an issue and help you do so. "Friends" although with intent to initially go to your wedding would say would offer a reason that they could not come to your wedding (although we would still likely be disappointed as a bride) yet, we would know that this person as a friend would be sincere and honest in their actions. Friends, well even in rough times would accept how they have contributed or not to the downfall or demise of a friendship and not let one person take the blame.
So, since it seems you have been damned for quite some time and your constantly being hurt by these 2 "Friends" I have to ask you, at what point will you be ready to let go of a friendship that leaves your hurt,sad and drained?
Originally Posted by Jamie5280
So I need to vent a little...I am pretty sure that my friendship with 2 people has come to an end! This has been a long time coming because of the awful things they have done and said to me over the past 3 almost 4 years so I am not sure why I am sad!?!?! They both have decided not to come to my wedding, which I thought I got over until yesterday. (Oh and they are best friends, which means they gang up and talk sh*t about me every time they get together!!!) One of the girls and I were supposed to get together and she canceled on me 4 times, which means she obviously doesn't want to see me, and she never contacted me to re-schedule again! (and like I am going to contact her again! ) The other one, I finally told her that my feelings are hurt that I don't have ONE friend coming, and I got snide comments back, so I kind of stopped being polite and now she won't talk to me!!! HA! But the kicker is, I know they go around talking about me and how it's all my fault they our friendship is flailing! NO accountability on their end whatsoever! I haven't been the "bestest" friend at all times, but I would never do and say some of the things they have. So I am sure you asking yourselves, why would you want to stay friends??? We were College roommates and friends for 15 yrs and were sooo close until I moved to Houston over 3 year ago, I keep waiting for things to change.
Ok, thanks for letting me vent, I am trying and trying not to let them get to me, but I just can't get over it!
So now I have a question, do I invite them to my bridal shower and bach. party!? It's a "damned if you do, damned if you don't" scenario. I am the bad person if I don't invite them, but I am pretty sure they won't come anyways! Which will p*ss me off all over again!
Thanks again for letting me vent!!!!!!!! I just need to talk it out sometimes and I can't trust anyone else~! Funny, right!? that I trust you guys over people I have knows for years!!!!! xoxoxo