Guests saying that resort is too expensive...i'm so frustraded
Posted 12 April 2010 - 10:44 PM
So, my stress started on Friday. I went to dinner with a couple of friends and they all told me that they thought Zoetry was too expensive and they wouldn't be able to go to the wedding. When I first decided to have a destination wedding, I knew that not everyone would be able to come either due to schedules or financial reasons. And I was ok with that. So, after the dinner I called my travel agent and had a freak out moment and she made me feel better, and reminded me that itâ€™s my wedding and I should get what I want.
So, I decided not to stress over and just let things happen. I did send a text to all my bridesmaids asking if they thought it was indeed too much money and nobody really said anything other than maybe I could make sure the dress wasnâ€™t too expensive and maybe have a simple bachelorette (which by the way, Iâ€™m ok with it).
And now, Iâ€™m getting more people saying something about the cost. I understand that Zoetry is more expensive than other resorts, and that everybody has other responsibilities and commitments. But honestly, I just went downstairs and cried for like 20 minutes with Michael, because I feel that no matter what, Iâ€™m not going to have this one day that I want to be perfect.
Anywaysâ€¦now I donâ€™t know what to do because every other resort that was on my list no longer have my date available. So, if I want to save a little bit of money, I will have to not only change resorts and change my date. Or as Michael and I discussed:
-Have a really small wedding here at home, and literally cut 80% of our guest list, and just go to Europe for our honeymoon
-Get married at town hall and just go to Europe and get married there just Michael, Lyla and I
-Start from the beginning all over again, and find a cheaper island
-Change resorts and possibly dates
-Just stay where we are and deal with people cancelling and complaining
We are asking for people to stay at the resort with us because of the following:
-For outside guests to come in to the resort for the day, there is a $99 pass per person
-For the wedding reception there would be an additional $100 per person charge that we would have to pay (food + drinks)
-The guest would be responsible for his/her own transportation to/from airport (with Zoetry, itâ€™s includedâ€¦I checked, and I havenâ€™t found a hotel like that yet)
-The whole point of going away for a wedding (at least for me) is to spend time together with friends, and if people stay outside the resort than we wont see anybody
So, yes, there is an option to stay outside the resort but honestly, if a lot of people decide to do that I canâ€™t afford it because Iâ€™m over budget as it isâ€¦.
Can you tell Iâ€™m really stressed? I just honestly, want to cancel this destination wedding and go to Europe with Michael and Lyla (our daughter) and get married just usâ€¦.
Posted 12 April 2010 - 10:59 PM
I know it's stressful, but keep your chin up. Your wedding will be your perfect day whether there's 2 people with you, or 20.
Posted 12 April 2010 - 11:02 PM
IMO it sounds like you and your FI need to take a few days to think this over and decide if this is the place you want for your DW or if any of the other options are better for you. Cheer up, you're not the only one! We've all had some version of this dilemma. Remember this is your wedding and you need to do what makes only you and your FI happy. I hope this helped...good luck!!!
Posted 13 April 2010 - 08:37 AM
Posted 13 April 2010 - 08:53 AM
Posted 13 April 2010 - 09:13 AM
I see you are at Zoetry which is amazing. Have you considered Dreams. They are related properties but Dreams is less expensive. Maybe that might be an option. Or maybe because they are related, you could ask whether there would be any break in the costs if guests stayed there (i.e. maybe they could waive the guest pass). It never hurts to ask.
If you do keep your wedding as planned, hopefully the fact that people have more than a year of notice will make it easier for them to be able to come to the wedding as they have more time to save.
Good luck with whatever you decide.
Posted 13 April 2010 - 09:36 AM
Posted 13 April 2010 - 11:09 AM
| Originally Posted by Jen_S |
I am sorry you are experiencing this but it is very typical. I think you and your FI need to talk about what is the most important to you guys. For us it was having our close friends and family members which meant we had to go for a middle of the range resort in the end our wedding was amazing and by not spending as much as we orig thought we were able to go on another honeymoon. Good Luck!!!
We figured we'd have a gorgeous and perfect wedding at any resort and like Jen, we decided to go all out on a more expensive resort (plus upgrades!) for our honeymoon!
Talk to your FI and decide if the setting is really more important than the people there! Check out reviews of the hundreds of resorts in the Mayan. If you can be flexible on your exact date (say the day before or after) I'm sure you can find one that offers you an amazing wedding for a price your guests will want to pay!
Posted 13 April 2010 - 02:00 PM
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