Today was a rough dayâ€¦
Posted 01 March 2010 - 08:13 PM
So as some of you may or may now know, my mom hasnâ€™t been in the best of health over the past couple of months, and I think I may have posted something about how the wedding planning was kind of stalled because my mind was on other things. Back in Feb my dad called to tell me that they found a mass in her colonâ€¦but he refused to use the word cancerâ€¦it was just a mass in her colon. And sheâ€™s young tooâ€¦sheâ€™s only 60. Well she had surgery back in Feb to remove the massâ€¦..then after surgery, one of her lungs collapsed and they had to put a tube in her chestâ€¦when they put the tube in they found spots on her lungâ€¦.and then when they started to do more testing, they discovered that the cancer had spread to her brain. My dad was finally able to call it what it is on Feb 18th. Itâ€™s stage IV brain cancer and pretty advanced. Until they found the tumors in her brain, I kept thinking that she can fight this and everything will be better, and I still believed that my parents would still be able to travel to my wedding. But now reality has set in and while Iâ€™m still trying to be optimistic, Iâ€™m also realistic as well, and I know thereâ€™s no way sheâ€™s going to be able to travel. At first she tried to tell me that we should still go without them and have the wedding because she knew the beach wedding was what I always wanted, but thereâ€™s just no way I can even think about that right now. My dad told me the same thing â€“ to go and have the wedding I always wanted. But in my mind, the wedding is the least of my concerns right now. We have no idea whatâ€™s going to happen day to dayâ€¦sheâ€™s had to go back into the hospital once so far for a pulmonary embolism; she just started radiation treatment last week, and will need to start chemo once the radiation is done. Who knows what side effects she will experience and how the treatment will progress. So I told my parents I was postponing the wedding and that all my mom needed to focus on right now was herself. And that I would be here to help take care of her and help my dad with whatever they need. While I know in my heart Iâ€™m making the right decision, itâ€™s still really disappointing to have to cancel our plans and postpone the wedding.
I may still check in from time to time, as I have my fingers crossed that Iâ€™ll still be able to have my beach wedding one day, and Iâ€™ve met some really great girls on this site as well But it will probably be sporadic since we really donâ€™t know what the future holds for us right now. Iâ€™m so grateful to all of you for sharing your ideas and opinions and I donâ€™t think thereâ€™s anywhere else I could have been so inspired! You ladies are so creative, thoughtful and supportiveâ€¦so thank you for everything!
Posted 01 March 2010 - 08:22 PM
Look forward to continue to see you around on the other random threads, I am sure you still have a lot to offer other brides.
Posted 01 March 2010 - 08:36 PM
Posted 01 March 2010 - 08:54 PM
But thank you for letting me talk about it....and sorry for being a downer...I know this should be a happy forum
Posted 01 March 2010 - 09:13 PM
Posted 01 March 2010 - 09:39 PM
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