Is it appropriate to ask the guests to pay for their meal at a bridal shower?
Posted 30 January 2010 - 02:16 PM
Posted 30 January 2010 - 02:31 PM
Posted 30 January 2010 - 02:55 PM
Anyway, here's my experience as an MOH. I threw a High Tea Bridal Shower for my bride, and since there were 4 other bridesmaids, we split the bill for the 25 guests at the tea house. I didn't read up on the proper etiquette, but there was no question amongst us all, that we weren't going to have the bride's shower guests pay for their meals. But I had help with the bill with 4 other girls, so it wasn't as big of a financial hit. If it's too expensive to have it at the tea house, then you can always throw the shower at someone's house and create your own high tea atmosphere (there's a ton of info on how to do that on the internet). I had decided NOT to do that option because it was too much work (someone always ends up doing more than others), and the cost actually wasn't as cheap as I thought (for the food, decor and setup). It was really nice to just have the tea house set it up and run the whole thing. We did it a Eloise's Tea House in Long Beach, which was a tiny cute and highly rated tea house, so we had the whole place to ourselves. Our guests LOOOOOOVED it.
Good luck, and I know it will turn out fantastic for you and your guests, no matter what. They are there for you. Have fun!!!
Posted 30 January 2010 - 03:08 PM
Posted 30 January 2010 - 06:16 PM
We ended up opting to have a 'Ladies Afternoon Tea' at my FSIL's house. Finger foods, tea cups, the whole 9-yards!
I don't think guests would be too keen on attending if they had to pay for their meal.
Posted 30 January 2010 - 06:18 PM
| Originally Posted by ~Angela~ |
My thoughts are yes .... not only are they coming for you, but probably bringing a gift as well. I don't think they should be expected to pay for their own food too.
Posted 30 January 2010 - 06:19 PM
Posted 30 January 2010 - 10:41 PM
Posted 31 January 2010 - 11:07 AM
Posted 31 January 2010 - 11:53 AM
| Originally Posted by giraffexx |
I am also a bridesmaid in my best friends wedding which is happening 2 months before I am getting married. I am one of 4 girls in her bridal party and we are splitting everything for the party 25% per bridesmaid. My question to you girls is am I expected to also give a gift at the shower since I'm already paying a pretty penny to help host the event?? Any advice welcome, I'm really stumped about this. Thanks!
I'm actually splitting some of the costs of the shower with my BMs. I feel bad that they're already spending a lot on the trip and they spent a lot on the engagement party as well.
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