Only married 7 weeks and heading for divorce :(
Posted 25 January 2010 - 12:06 AM
I had a simular situation with my FI and one of his friends. She was sending really nasty messages to him and I told him I wouldn't tolerate it anymore. She is no longer in the picture.
Just trust your instinct. Have him give you his passwords (if he has nothing to hide he will give it to you) Most importantly don't let him make you feel bad for not trusting him.
I would suggest going into couples therapy. If you want to try and work it out.
Good luck. I am so sorry for all that the have going on.
Posted 25 January 2010 - 12:08 AM
Stay strong sweetie.
Posted 25 January 2010 - 12:12 AM
If you really want to know: check out some IT sites you can pull deleted items and passwords with the right software from your home PC. You could ask the guys at your IT help desk most of them our genius when it comes to this and will let you know how to install and run. If it was me I would want to know if the trust was already broken and I had proof like you have.
Posted 25 January 2010 - 12:18 AM
Posted 25 January 2010 - 12:38 AM
He has some serious making up to do if he's going to ever get in your good books again.
Ughh, why do guys have to be so sleazy sometimes?! Like he has a stunning wife and still needs to get a rush from the office tramp flirting with him...
And SHAME on her for playing her role in this too. Don't forget, what goes around, comes around and she will get hers one day!
Posted 25 January 2010 - 12:46 AM
Wishing you all the best.
Posted 25 January 2010 - 01:05 AM
Have you asked him how he would feel if he saw similar emails that you were sending to another man? I am sure he wouldn't like it at all. Out of respect for you he needs to do what you ask to build that trust back up!
Hang in there! I feel like I am going through this all over again with you...it is truly the worst feeling in the world. Your heart sinks...in the end...you need to do what you are comfortable with and what is best for you! You know him better than the rest of us do...trust what your gut tells you!
I will be saying a few prayers for you tonight! Lots of hugs!
Posted 25 January 2010 - 01:09 AM
I agree with the other girls though - you need to stay strong and hold your ground, with whatever you are feeling. You do not deserve this, you are a beautiful girl and deserve much better than this treatment.
Stay strong....whatever the outcome is, you'll make it through.
Posted 25 January 2010 - 01:34 AM
Posted 25 January 2010 - 01:55 AM
I truly believe that our gut instints are usually right so if you are feeling like he is lying, most likely he is. Maybe he is not lying about what exactly you think he is but something is wrong. The fact that he won't give you her phone number is a huge red flag. If he hadnt been calling her or talking to her then he would pony up the number no problem, so its pretty clear that there is more than just emails going on. And to email someone other than YOU, his wife, the day after you got back from your wedding to say he missed her, is just wrong.
Make sure you follow your head on this one even if your heart is telling you something different. You deserve the truth and only once you have the truth will you be able to decide how you want to proceed. HE should be willing to give you everything you want right now if he really wants to work on things. *hugs*
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