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#1 rdhbride

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    Posted 28 November 2009 - 05:22 AM

    we were planned for a wedding for may in dr. unfortunately my mom has been recently diagnosed with cancer with a very poor prognosis. she is unable to travel. we will be having an ahr. we are in the final stages of picking a place and are hoping to do it on her bday in aug. we are unsure if she will be here but are hopeful. we now have to send out info to let people know of the change. everyone pretty much is aware of whats going on right now. this is where i need your help ladies. do you think we can send a letter ? we really didn't want to spend alot of invites again since we did message in a bottle. i would like it to say something like a celebration of and love and life...... any help is greatly appreciated!! thanks:)

    #2 shellk

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      Posted 28 November 2009 - 05:37 AM

      omg i am soo sorry.wedding planning should be a happy time.you dont deserve to have this worry.but what you are doing sounds great.try and make the letter light hearted (if possible).i would just put what you said about celebrating love+life and the change of date.at the bottom of the letter will you need to put new rsvp,s?

      #3 Preciousmi811

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        Posted 28 November 2009 - 05:42 AM

        I am so sorry for the poor diagnose and my thoughts are with you. That said, I am not good when it comes to etiquette but under the circumstance I think a email would be fine. Maybe you could have a picture of the three of you and the message be upbeat, like you said, celebrating life. If your mother is too sick to attend I would look into streaming your wedding live and she can watch it from home. Just make sure your AHR has a fast internet connection and that your mom does as well. Your reception is going to be so special!
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        #4 debbmach

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          Posted 28 November 2009 - 11:20 AM

          A letter will be fine, especially since everyone is already aware of what's going on. This way in a letter you can be a bit more descriptive about what your plans are. Hope everything works out for you and your family.

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          #5 nsimpson

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            Posted 28 November 2009 - 12:01 PM

            First of all, my prayers are with you and your family. I will share some advice that my friend got when she was in a similar situation: "if you cannot change the situation, do not let the situation change you." - Remain upbeat, positive and hopefull for the future.

            Given the quick change in circumstances a letter is perfectly fine. The tone should reflect one that is celebrating life, love and all that is precious. Remember, life is all about creating new memories to treasure.

            Best wishes :)

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            #6 carolina24

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              Posted 28 November 2009 - 01:32 PM

              Im so sorry to hear this. I think a letter would be more than enough to let everyone know of the changes. You don't need to worry about invites at all.

              #7 hat0112

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                Posted 28 November 2009 - 01:49 PM

                I am so sorry! My prayers are with you and your family. I think a letter would be fine. No need to resend invitations. I would just put together a letter and a way of them to RSVP.
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                #8 frazali

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                  Posted 28 November 2009 - 03:24 PM

                  rdhbride - I am so sorry for what your family is going through. We found out between our ceremony and AHR that my mom has cancer as well. If you need to "talk" feel free to PM me - I know how hard it is.

                  Let me also say, that many guests who came to the AHR knew about my mom's situation, and it made the reception that much more special, as it truly was a celebration of life and love! It was held 2 days before her first surgery.

                  I think that sending out a letter is fine as well - and certainly everyone will understand.

                  #9 nsbride2010

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                    Posted 28 November 2009 - 03:27 PM

                    A letter will be fine, since those who were invited are probably already aware of the situation... no need to spend more money on invites for the AHR! Stay upbeat, and you know you always have the BDW ladies to talk to!
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                    #10 clfaidl2

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                      Posted 28 November 2009 - 03:37 PM

                      I'm so sorry hun! My prayers are with you and your family! I think a letter would be just fine.

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