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Save the date etiquette help!

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#1 alberthathrasher

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    Posted 03 November 2009 - 03:02 PM

    Hey all,
    I have a bit of a conundrum regarding our save the date invites for our destination wedding. We will be getting married in Nov. 2010 in Mexico and had arranged our trip package so everything is booked and ready to go. Our immediate families know of our plans, including the information that a deposit is required by Dec. 13 2009 to guarantee a spot on the trip and to be a part of the early booking bonus.

    On our save the date invites we are torn over whether to include the full price of the trip or to give our guests the contact info to find out the price themselves. I believe it is tacky and presumptuous to fully state the trip package price options (our save the date's clearly state we are getting married in Mexico and will be having a reception in our home city for all those who can't attend, so everyone knows we will be going away no matter what). My fiance wants to include as much info as possible because her reasoning is that she wants people to know up front what kind of price they can expect and they can decide from there, plus have the advantage of taking part in the early booking bonus.

    We fully expect it won't be a large wedding party in Mexico, asides from a few of those on the fence. Some guest we know can't make it because of money or health or other issues, but we will be sending them a save the date regardless.

    Is there a proper way of wording our invites so as not to insult anyone? I'm partial to including all the trip info, including prices, on our website which we'd include on the card. Or should we just throw it all on there and let the guest decide? We're sending an actual wedding invitation later on this summer for guests to RSVP to our reception at home. By the time our wedding invites hit mailboxes, the final payment for our trip package would have passed.

    Can anyone help with their advice on what they did for their destination weddings? Is there an etiquette involved? Any suggestions would greatly help alleviate this already stressful process.

    #2 tracyann

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      Posted 03 November 2009 - 03:33 PM

      What we did is post the info on our website, and the website is on the save the date. Close friends have asked about prices so we have discussed it with some, but we didn't include prices on the actual save the date.

      #3 Cassie

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        Posted 03 November 2009 - 03:41 PM

        I agree with tracyann, post the pricing information on your website and have your STD send them to the website for more information.
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        #4 Tilly in the Sun

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          Posted 06 November 2009 - 10:44 AM

          I think putting your website on the STD and than having all pricing info on the website is the best way to go.

          #5 ChelseaRose

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            Posted 06 November 2009 - 11:39 AM

            Personally, I would not put the pricing on the STD. I think you'll be able to provide more detailed information on a website, and it will still look elegant if you have the website on the STD. That way you can still provide your guests all the information they need, plus more since you'll have endless room on a website!!

            #6 amandalsu

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              Posted 06 November 2009 - 03:22 PM

              I would only put pricing info on the website and add the address to the STDs. This is standard practice. Keep the STD simple and concise. Don't forget to include the information on the " at home reception" so those that can't make the wedding still can find useful information on the webpage and feel included.

              #7 super19

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                Posted 06 November 2009 - 05:21 PM

                I agree with the ladies above. Put the specific pricing information on the website and refer to your website on your save the date.

                #8 jdrewett

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                  Posted 09 November 2009 - 06:49 PM

                  I vote for putting the info on the website too. Then your guests can see the rest of the information/photos and start to get really excited!

                  #9 hockeymom97

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                    Posted 09 November 2009 - 09:14 PM

                    Another vote for including your wedding website on the Save the Date and then you can list more detailed infor about the pricing and how to make travel arrangements as well as information about the AHR as well. That's what we did :)
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                    #10 midnight24

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                      Posted 10 November 2009 - 04:11 AM

                      i put the info on our wedding website. only problem is that no one booked the group rate quote before the expiry date (our travel agent only gave us 2 weeks tops for deposits to be in). we just sent our in STD less than a month ago and i have been hearing from people that they never even looked at the website. we are getting married in april 2010, that's 6 months away. since your wedding is over a year away, be prepared that most guests aren't going to book that far in advance. prices will most likely go down. i updated our website for guests with information for them to book their trips individually. we'll see how many people end up coming. either way...they were invited and in my opinion if they choose not to come that is their loss...haha.

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