My FMIL deliberately bought dress same color as bridesmaids!
Posted 04 October 2009 - 01:52 PM
I am so annoyed by this. I don't know if she did it to pi$$ me off, or just honestly has no clue, but sheesh??
I told her many times that the bridesmaid dresses were a sage green chiffon and silver sandals. When she asked me a while back what kind of dress she should get, I just said "no black" (trying to keep it tropical). well, my FMIL just informed me that she bought not one but TWO sage green dresses to bring so she can wear which one matches better. Um, hello? Isn't this a faux paux? I am going to bite my tounge but this really aggravates me. I am quite sure if she had showed up to her daughters $80,000 wedding (which fmil paid for) in a dress that matched the wedding party, her own daughter would have had a fit. But she is planning on rolling into my beach wedding (and contributing not one cent) with a matching dress? And I have to be the nice lady and not say anything?
I think I will have a talk with the photgrapher beforehand so she is not in too many photos with us. WTF? And to top it off, my FI thinks this is hillarious!
Posted 04 October 2009 - 02:04 PM
I would maybe mention to her that that is the same colour as the BM dresses (which you know she already knows), but perhaps suggest if she could get the same dresses in a different colour ... maybe plant in her head that she won't want to look like she's part of the bridal party, but rather being the groom's mother, she should stand out, not blend in... pump her up that way... ?? Good luck, i would be PO'd too.
Posted 04 October 2009 - 02:32 PM
Then she also had the nerve to tell me not to make her son rent a tux for the AHR because she deoesn't think it's worth the cost. I had no intention of him wearing one, but now I am tempted to have him go out and rent the most "bling" tux available... two can play this game.
Posted 04 October 2009 - 03:04 PM
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Posted 04 October 2009 - 03:33 PM
There's nothing wrong with your FMIL wearing the same color dress (in my opinion)... however if it is something that is going to continue to bother you, you should simply, nicely tell her that you would prefer she not match the bridal party. In fact, when she asked you what color, if you felt so strongly about it, you could have told her then.
I also want to add that stressing over it and inventing scenarios ("...if she had showed up to her daughters $80,000 wedding (which fmil paid for) in a dress that matched the wedding party, her own daughter would have had a fit") will not help the matter at all.. don't compare your wedding to anyone elses.
There's enough to stress about when planning a wedding
Edit: i just noticed it's 6 days away from your wedding -- have a great time and don't even worry about the dresses
Posted 04 October 2009 - 03:34 PM
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