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I think I'm going to SCREAM!!!!!

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So, our wedding is 11 days away, and we leave this Saturday.

From the beginning, we said we can understand if people cannot make it.

Everyone was told 15 months in advance that this was what we were going to do.

FI's sister INSISTED she would not miss the wedding, no matter what.

We also told FI's sister that we knew she would be staying at another resort, due to costs, as she is a single Mom, with a 17 & 5 year old. We asked her if her 5 year old could be our flowergirl. She said absolutely!!

So, I ordered dress, bought shoes, jewellery, welcome bags and gifts, paid for hair for FG and FSIL with Suzanne Morel.

** Note back in time: Our wedding was originally to be on May 28th, but with swine flu cancelling our travel, we had to rebook for August 20th.**

Everything was booked for her for our wedding in May.

FSIL was the first to call on April 27th and leave a message on my voicemail saying that travel was cancelled and I would need to rebook my wedding. (A nice surprise to hear that when you check your messages...). She then called me each night after asking what she should do, because I obviously had a "Plan B"?!?!? I got a quick response from the WC, and on Apr. 30th, I let everyone know our new wedding date. The calls from her stopped.

But she insisted she would be there.... plus she had another 3 months to save.

When she cancelled she had a travel credit to use.

Now, less than a week before we leave, she is trying to book her travel!! Imagine her dismay to see that flights are no longer cheap!! She is now expecting me to help her out with all her travel arrangements! She has left several messages because she doesn't know what to do now, and if she can come.

I simply cannot afford to stress about this right now, I have way too much to do! FI is at the point where he doesn't want ANY of his family going!

 

Oh yeah, and his parents never told us they were coming, but they never said they weren't. They just kept rubbing in all the things they have purchased the last year, and talking about going to Montreal, and then Vegas in December. My FI heard on Thursday that they are planning on showing up as a surprise! WHAT?!?!? Now I have to plan for I don't know how many people coming or not coming....

 

Any advice? If I had a time machine, we would have just eloped... LOL

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oh my goodness, always drama. All I can say is do what you can do for now and to keep you both happy and sane!! Don't sweat the small stuff or worry about things you can't control. There is always someone who will try and steal your happiness but it is up to you if you want to let them or not.

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Wow, that is just crazy! I agree with Love3; don't worry about the things you can't control. As for your FSIL, if you can't afford to assist her, especially since she waited until now to book her tickets, you'll just have to let her know. Too much drama so close to your wedding date! Sorry you have to go through all that but I'm sure everything will work out in the end...good luck!

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I am so sorry to hear about your stress right before your wedding. Don't worry it will all work out the way it is supposed to. Whether or not you FSIL is there or not, you are going to marry the man that you love! That is the most important thing. As far as the flower girl stuff already purchased, don't worry, one of the BDW girls will want it!! Good luck and I hope you have a beautiful wedding!!

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Dont let this stress you out or ruin your wedding. This is yours and your fiance's day. You're sister in law had pleny of time to save money and book this trip. If she is not prepared to do so, then thats on her..not you. As much as Im sure you would love her to be there its not your fault that she waited last minute to book her flights. As for suprise guests, im sure your WC will be able to accomodate you. From what I've been reading on this site, its seems like no matter where you go, the WC are always trying to make this the best day for you. Good luck with everything and let us know how it goes.

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Missy Bee Ur issue reminds me of mine with my father thinking he will surprise me and come to the wedding. The surprise will be on him bc he will have no transportation, no food and no seat for the ceremony. So much for surprises. How does someone think its ok to surprise you and come to a catered affair?

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I would send an email out or phone call and tell people they need to let you know within the next two days if they are coming or not. Tell them if they don't inform you by the given date, you will not be purchasing a dinner for them (or if you have an included dinner, just tell them you will be assuming they will not make it and you will miss them) I would be completely blunt with it, especially at this point.

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Don't let the stress from other ppl ruin your wedding day.. At least his parents are coming - but as a surprisehuh.gif Don't they realize you have to book things for a wedding?? As for his sister, if you can find a way to help her out, I would.. It really is her fault, but if she is a single mom and really can't afford any extra $$$, I think you and FI might regret not having her there for a little more $$$.

We ended up booking travel for some of our family (some with their credit cards and some not) and I was soo irritated at the time, but they all ended paying us back and it was really important to us to have them all there..

Good luck - no matter what, it is your and FI's day and soon you will be a MRS :)

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what is wrong w our friends and families??

mikes brother (best man) texted, yea texted, him 2 weeks ago to say he wasnt coming .... he has a job training to goto. can you say BS?? its not an issue w money with him since he makes like 250k he just cant stand to see someone happy.

then last week mikes aunt bailed, mind you mikes mom and dad paid for her trip. Thank god the resort was understanding and gave them a refund but reallyhuh.gif

but these same people would be upset if they werent invited to a local wedding where we would pay 150 pp.....

im sorry you have to go thru this , its gonna be fine, just let it roll off......

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