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#1 blckrevpower

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    Posted 07 August 2009 - 01:52 AM

    Hey guys,
    i just wanted to know if anyone planned their wedding AND bought a house in the same time frame. Our wedding is next year, but we've been looking at houses. We found one, and it's great.
    My fiance says we should push the wedding back and focus on the house. I say we should just continue with wedding, but on a smaller scale.
    What should be do?
    My fiance is concerned because we need to put down a deposit on the resort and provide $ for a down payment on the house in the same time frame. The house doesn't need a lot of work, but we do want to work on small cosmetic things, one at a time.
    Are we taking on too much? Should we wait another year to get married?
    "Bart, with $10,000, we'd be millionaires! We could buy all kinds of useful things like...love!" --Homer Simpson

    #2 flbluiiis

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      Posted 07 August 2009 - 08:02 AM

      Umm that is a hard one and a very personal decision. It can be done, but it all depends on your budget. Do you think you would be happy with a smaller scale wedding or would you look back and wish you would've done those few extra things? Is your heart set on that date or could you push it back a couple months? a year? All questions that you and your FI would have to answer.
      We just bought a house in November 2008, and although I LOVE it. I kinda wish we would've rented a little longer to save up more money.

      Keep us updated on what you two decide :)

      #3 BachataBride

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        Posted 07 August 2009 - 08:23 AM

        DH and I bought a house in Nov '08 & were married in Jan '09.
        Our wedding was basically already paid for (the trip part anyway) & we didn't need a down payment for the house (first time home owners incentives, etc!) so our situations aren't exactly the same. But, with the new home purchase & the other weddding costs we didn't really have the money to do "fixer up" kind of things. But now that we've got a bit more cash flow we are starting to do them now. Our house was livable & we figured the painting & cosmetic stuff could wait. We were very anxious to be in our own home & I wasn't putting off the wedding!!!

        Like flbluiiis said above, this is a very personal decision so do what's best for you. Good Luck!!! :)

        #4 KLaBate54

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          Posted 07 August 2009 - 08:29 AM

          We're also in a similar situation. We're actually building a house right now, which should be done this fall...and then our wedding is next March. I definitely feel like there's a lot going on a one time, but it's also really exciting! If it works for you and it's in your budget, than definitely go for it!

          #5 KAMAY11

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            Posted 07 August 2009 - 10:35 AM

            We were also in a similar situation....DH proposed in Dec.2006 but we didn't get married until last year because he wanted to focus on buying a house first. I was sad at first, but now I am very happy we waited. We bought our house in June '08 and got married that October.
            I agree with the other posts....If you can afford to do both, then GO FOR IT! If not, there's no harm in waiting.
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            #6 ~Debra~

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              Posted 07 August 2009 - 10:51 AM

              I agree with everyone else. It is completely a personal decision. However, if its something you want to do it is VERY doable. We got married June 26th and closed on our house on July 7th. Very close together and to be honest, it wasn't the funnest (I know, not a word) thing to do but it wasn't that bad. The last month while I was finishing up wedding stuff, my DH finished up all the home owner's stuff and we just kept each other in the loop. Good luck with whatever you decide!

              #7 BachataBride

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                Posted 07 August 2009 - 02:59 PM

                Originally Posted by ~Debra~
                The last month while I was finishing up wedding stuff, my DH finished up all the home owner's stuff and we just kept each other in the loop.
                That's pretty much what happened with us! DH was not too interested in the wedding stuff, so he did the majority of the house stuff!!

                #8 MissyR

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                  Posted 07 August 2009 - 03:03 PM

                  We closed on our house October 31 and left for the wedding three weeks later. I would say aside from the obvious finanical constraints, it was extremely stressful moving, dealing with the closing and everything that goes along with it - and packing for a DW. If I had to do it all over again I probably would have waited to buy a home until after we were married.

                  #9 The Mandy in Chandy

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                    Posted 07 August 2009 - 03:07 PM

                    Add me to this group! Not only are we thinking of buying- we might build! Oh lawd help me!

                    I agree with everyone else though, you're gonna have to weigh it all out and decide together

                    #10 Allisa

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                      Posted 07 August 2009 - 03:20 PM

                      We got engaged on Oct 31st, 2008 and I started planning and house hunting at the same time! We closed on our house and moved in Feb 1st, 2009, and we are getting married Sept 9,2009.
                      This year has been a hard one financially... but we have managed and I'm glad we did! We plan on having our AHR here at the house too.
                      Go with what you feel you can handle,it will all work out!

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