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Does your FI/DH know how much you weigh?

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#1 jk1101

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    Posted 10 June 2009 - 11:17 AM

    The reason for my question:

    FI is pretty thin - 34 waist - but he's very vain and feels flabby, we have been majorly slacking with the gym and he's telling me he won't get on a beach this year, and if something doesn't change our beach wedding isn't going to happen. He can be very dramatic at times

    I am a size 10. I weigh alot for my 5'4 frame but I fit into the 10 or 29 inch waist in most clothes. Ideally I would like to lose 20 lbs before the wedding. I'd lost 30 right before I met FI, and I've kept off 20 of them. Again, slacking at the gym, and before I met him, I ate a lot of diet bars and shakes, and some salads, since I don't cook. I also had a time 10 years ago when I weighed over 200 lbs and lost 80 on Weigt Watchers. It's a struggle...I really don't want to go back there.

    FI cooks a lot...like every night...and there's pasta, and rice, and steak and all sorts of yummy things...and we go out....and part of it is my fault for having no self control and eating way more than I should but that's another thread.

    So yesterday he found out we are going to be invited to a pool party in August and he started freaking out (remember - drama king) that he looks horrible and we can't go unless we shape up now...blah blah blah....and then he said


    and I said, I will not be getting on the scale in front of you. You don't need to know that. He got mad.

    I tried to explain to him that it's just a number. I've been doing a lot of Pilates so my body is shrinking but I'm not losing pounds.....he doesn't get it...
    I don't think it's any of his busines.
    I'm never going to be skinny. And I'm never going to be one of those people who go to the gym every day, and never eats anything good like ice cream or french fries. I know I can lose weight eating small portions and working out 3-4 days a week, I just haven't been doing it.

    So now we're in a challenge.

    Sorry for the kind of rant but I guess I took this very personally.

    But I was curious to know how many of you share that number with your significant other

    #2 hunniebee724

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      Posted 10 June 2009 - 11:25 AM

      FI doesn't know, and has never asked. If he asked, I'd tell him. It's just a number to me.

      #3 *Nadine*

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        Posted 10 June 2009 - 12:06 PM

        I dont even know how much I weigh?! Ha. I think the last time I stepped on a scale to find out my weight was back in university for volleyball. But im pretty sure FI could guess or ask and I wouldnt care, he loves me for who I am not how much I weigh.

        #4 JOSIE

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          Posted 10 June 2009 - 12:17 PM

          my FI knows because we work out together and track our progress together. I was totally embarassed to tell him, but he didn't seem phased at all even though I consider my number high or surprising....he was just like "you're muscular and muscle weighs more" LOL

          #5 Jen_S

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            Posted 10 June 2009 - 12:19 PM

            My DH knows how much I weigh. About 2 years ago we both said we wanted to loose weight so we both got on the scale in front of each other it has actually been a good thing because it keeps me on track.
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            #6 Jennifer Davis

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              Posted 10 June 2009 - 12:29 PM

              Yep - he knows - 138 pounds. In my opinion no one should be ashamed of what they weigh. Sure, I would like to weigh less but I don't. It is what it is =0)

              #7 Seven

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                Posted 10 June 2009 - 12:33 PM

                He knows how much I weigh and my bra size.

                #8 Virg

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                  Posted 10 June 2009 - 12:45 PM

                  Why hide it? I mean he is your future husband, and he shoud love you no matter what, plus I am a firm believer of no secrets between couples. My FI was shocked to find out that I was 180 a year ago, he couldn't believe I weighed as much as he did ( I am 5'9 so I can hide 5lbs easily - thank god!)
                  I am now down to 145 and I still compalin about my rolls, but he says he doesn't see them. Fact is we have curves, and the men love that more than any twiggy!
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                  #9 Jacilynda

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                    Posted 10 June 2009 - 01:04 PM

                    Joe knows. I don't see a reason to hide it. Especially since I'm working on losing weight I get excited and tell him how much I weigh now! Joe has pretty much known my weight all along cause he bought me a new wakeboard for my bday when we first started dating. hee hee megan! And I was the smallest I've ever been then.

                    I think you already said it; "its just a number" if you really think that then why not do it? It is just a number.

                    Plus if you really want to lose weight having your partner do it w/ you can be very encouraging and annoying but probably very successful

                    #10 ~*Lisa*~

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                      Posted 10 June 2009 - 01:11 PM

                      My FI and I know both of our weights as we are both working out and I am a WW member. I don't care that he knows. When I lose weight, we can both get excited as we see the progress. Being a plus-size gal, I'm not ashamed to tell him. I wouldn't tell the whole world but with him and my mom, I'm comfy talking about it!

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