What to say to friends that are not invited?
Posted 28 April 2009 - 09:17 AM
I'm new to this forum. Did a quick search but couldn't find a thread on this topic, so sorry if it's a re-post!
As DWs are smaller than normal weddings, there will probably be friends that fall into the borderline invite/not-invite category. Do people generally feel neglected if not invited, or do they feel relief at not having to save up or think of an excuse? For those friends who aren't invited (esp. the ones who are semi-close and feel that they are close enough to be invited), what kind of responses would you give to not offend them? Lots of people are being really sweet, and are offering to help with wedding planning and whatnot, and i don't have the heart to say, "... >< sorry, we're keeping this really small..." but due to budget constraints, we won't be able to invite everyone.
Thanks so much! I know this is an issue probably most have dealt with so i'm really looking forward to all your input.
Posted 28 April 2009 - 09:26 AM
Posted 28 April 2009 - 10:01 AM
Posted 28 April 2009 - 11:04 AM
But the other ladies gave great advice regarding what to say....just keep saying: "we're actually only having family for our ceremony and are keeping it small and intimate"
Posted 02 May 2009 - 05:21 PM
Posted 02 May 2009 - 05:34 PM
also, it made it less awkward for the people we really didn't want there....only our good friends and family made it to our DW...no random uncles we hadn't seen in awhile or party friends.
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Posted 08 June 2009 - 10:53 AM
Posted 09 June 2009 - 12:20 PM
And then they asked me why? Why am I having a small wedding? Why did I decide to only invite immediate family. And when I explained that nobody from my extended family was not invited, they still wanted to know why. Maybe I am alone with this, but I really felt that my friends would undersatnd more than my family.....
Posted 09 June 2009 - 02:20 PM
i know i've read time and time again on here that have a DW has really shown people the true colors of their friends and family... those who make it vs. those who don't and how people react to the whole thing. good luck with those friends of yours who were making assumptions and trying to make you explain all of your decisions. don't let that get in the way of your dream day!
Posted 09 June 2009 - 03:21 PM
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