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"Gift" from my Parents (rant)

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Hi girls,

 

I've been meaning to get this off of my chest for a while and I'm not sure if anyone other than my DH agrees with me on this...maybe I'm crazy but I need to know what you all think!

 

Ok, so my parents payed for my two week stay at the Iberostar (which was awesome) because DH's parents were paying for his two week stay at the resort. Then my parents decide to pay for my older and younger sisters' one week stays at the resort claiming it to be a " wedding gift" to me since they THINK my sisters can't afford it. I don't want to sound spoiled, but how the f*** do my sisters get a FREE vacation and it is somehow a "gift" to me?? They BOTH make more money than me and my younger sister has next to NO living expenses (she lives in my step-dad's condo for $300 rent...I have a mortgage, hello!!). This whole post probably sounds incredibly spoiled on my part but I just can't follow their ass-backward logic. Sigh...

 

Am I the only one who thinks this is f'ed up?!?

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I can totally understand how this is feeling like a little bit of a shaft when your sis gets a free vacation. I imagine i might feel similar. I don;t really have anything to say except that I can see where you are coming from. They really shouldn't have said that it was a wedding gift to you. Maybe they should have just paid for it and kept quiet. That's how I would feel.

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lol, I understand! I have a younger brother so I'm use to him getting special priveleges and being spoiled! My brother will most likely get a free ride to my wedding also, being that he has NO job and lives with my mom!

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I hear ya, my dad is paying for wedding day and my sisters flights, so in no way do I expect him to give any additional gifts, but it is a little annoying that I am paying for my flights but sis gets them for free.

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Yeah.... I don't think your parents should have stated it as being "a gift". If they wanted to pay for your sisters they could have just done that from the kindness of their hearts....lol. I totally see what you're saying!

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I agree - its great they paid for your siblings but they shouldn't have positioned it as a gift to you. I totally get where you are coming from!

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I totally agree, you are definitely not crazy!

 

My dad told me how much he has saved for my wedding, then started saying how everyone's flights and accommodations would be coming out of that (everyone being me, FI, my parents, sister & brother). I went a little nuts on him and that got retracted. So, he's paying for my FI & I, my brother, and their accommodations but not our flights or my brothers. I'm using the rest of the $ for the actual wedding and my dress. :)

 

Can you tell your parents, wow, that's really sweet of you but do you mind explaining how it's a gift to me?

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Aw thanks girls, it's so nice to know I'm not cuckoo!

 

It's funny, I think they were calling it a "gift" because they don't want to have to get us a real wedding gift...isn't that awful? I know for a fact that they are very well off (as my mom likes to often bring up the fact that my step-dad has millions in savings and investments and so much money that his banker encourages him to spend it), not that I expect a huge gift or monetary compensation but don't use my sisters' vacation expenses as your cop-out. That is bull. I even told her that it didn't make any sense and she just shrugged me off. So essentially they didn't really give me a gift at all if you think about it since them paying for my vacation and my sisters' vacation makes the three of us on an even playing field. The worst of it is that when my mom was raising us she would always push this crap about trying to be fair to all three of us, yet here we are. It just really frosts me lol. Thanks again for understanding ladies!!

 

I just also wanted to mention that she is probably trying to "punish" me for having a DW because she mentioned more than once over the six months before the wedding that it would have been just SO much easier if we had it at home. Easier for who exactly? Not us and a DW was what we wanted and is STILL cheaper than having it locally.

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