My youngest sister has passed...I want to cancel ceremony
Posted 03 October 2008 - 01:14 PM
Posted 03 October 2008 - 01:19 PM
If you are having a lot of trouble coping with the death, I would think it would be best to delay for a few months or a year. 2 months is very soon.
I know some people say "she would want you to have your weddign" but it's not about that, it's about whether or not you will enjoy the planning process and the actual event. Chances are you will enjoy it more if you delay the wedding, but only you can know how you feel and make the best decision.
Posted 03 October 2008 - 01:25 PM
Know though that on your wedding day, and beyond that even, she WILL be there with you. Of course, do what you and your FI think is best. Sun Bride made a good point too, in waiting alil before you worry about any of that.
We are all here for you if you need anything, so don't hesitate to shout, pm me, anything. Again, I am sincerely sorry XOXOX
Posted 03 October 2008 - 01:31 PM
Posted 03 October 2008 - 01:35 PM
Go with your gut. There is no right or wrong answer here. IT'S WHATEVER MAKES YOU FEEL BETTER. I have no doubt all your guests/family will understand.
Posted 03 October 2008 - 01:41 PM
If there is anything we can do, let us know.
Posted 03 October 2008 - 01:53 PM
When you are ready something to take into consideration is how your family will react if you proceed with your plans. FH lost his mother in March and while we choose to proceed with our plans some of his family members are extremely unhappy with that choice. His brother(best man) has chosen not to come actually, he feels we are disrespecting his mother's memory by not postponing.
Do what is right for both of you.
Posted 03 October 2008 - 02:08 PM
But know that it will get easier (I know, it's hard to imagine). And this is the time when family and close friends mean the most.
This is your time to grieve, remember and eventually give her a place in your heart for always ... while you and your family continue on, keeping her memory alive.
I don't think anyone will be offended or upset if you delay your celebration ... it is about you, and your happiness and your fiances happiness. Death is never an easy thing to deal with and you need to take as much time as you need to deal with it all ... and the same goes for your family.
My heart goes out to you and your family ... and you know we are ALL here for you, always.
Posted 03 October 2008 - 02:15 PM
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