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My youngest sister has passed...I want to cancel ceremony

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#31 PinionGirl

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    Posted 03 October 2008 - 01:14 PM

    omg . . . I am so sorry for your loss!!! Prayers going up right now for you & your family.

    #32 chickadee024

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      Posted 03 October 2008 - 01:18 PM

      My heart is hurting for you. Life is so completely unfair sometimes, especially when loved ones are taken before anyone is ready.

      We're here for you.

      #33 SunBride

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        Posted 03 October 2008 - 01:19 PM

        I would say try not to think about it now, tell yourslelf you are giving yourself a week or two to focus on grieving and not even think abuot the wedding. Then in a week or two think about it seriously, and talk to your fiance and make the decision that is right for you, don't even give a thought to your guests. Normally I wouldn't say that last part, but these are very serious circumstances that give you the right to be 100% selfish.

        If you are having a lot of trouble coping with the death, I would think it would be best to delay for a few months or a year. 2 months is very soon.

        I know some people say "she would want you to have your weddign" but it's not about that, it's about whether or not you will enjoy the planning process and the actual event. Chances are you will enjoy it more if you delay the wedding, but only you can know how you feel and make the best decision.

        #34 Jacqueline

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          Posted 03 October 2008 - 01:25 PM

          Oh I'm so sorry. No words can really make any of this better. My heart aches for you and your family, I will keep you in my thoughts and prayers.

          Know though that on your wedding day, and beyond that even, she WILL be there with you. Of course, do what you and your FI think is best. Sun Bride made a good point too, in waiting alil before you worry about any of that.

          We are all here for you if you need anything, so don't hesitate to shout, pm me, anything. Again, I am sincerely sorry XOXOX

          #35 Jessica

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            Posted 03 October 2008 - 01:31 PM

            I am so very sorry. I know this must be a really painful time for you and your family right now. You need to do what feels right to your in this situation... whether it be to cancel the wedding or move forth with it in your sister's honor. Whatever your decision is we will support you.

            #36 can't wait!

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              Posted 03 October 2008 - 01:35 PM

              Like everyone else has been saying....I am extremely sorry for your loss. I have a sister I hold near and dear to my heart and the thought of losing her brings tears to my eyes. I can only imagine the intense pain you are feeling.
              Go with your gut. There is no right or wrong answer here. IT'S WHATEVER MAKES YOU FEEL BETTER. I have no doubt all your guests/family will understand.

              #37 boscobel

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                Posted 03 October 2008 - 01:41 PM

                Wow. I don't have much to add except my own condolences. It must be extremely upsetting for you, and I am so sorry for the loss of your sister.

                If there is anything we can do, let us know.

                #38 NJ_bride

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                  Posted 03 October 2008 - 01:53 PM

                  I am soo sorry for your loss. Take all the time you need, don't make decisions now if you don't have to. My thoughts are with you.

                  When you are ready something to take into consideration is how your family will react if you proceed with your plans. FH lost his mother in March and while we choose to proceed with our plans some of his family members are extremely unhappy with that choice. His brother(best man) has chosen not to come actually, he feels we are disrespecting his mother's memory by not postponing.

                  Do what is right for both of you.

                  #39 BlissfulMsMiranda

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                    Posted 03 October 2008 - 02:08 PM

                    There are no words -- and no matter how many times you hear someone tell you they're sorry for your loss, I know from experience it doesn't make it better.

                    But know that it will get easier (I know, it's hard to imagine). And this is the time when family and close friends mean the most.

                    This is your time to grieve, remember and eventually give her a place in your heart for always ... while you and your family continue on, keeping her memory alive.

                    I don't think anyone will be offended or upset if you delay your celebration ... it is about you, and your happiness and your fiances happiness. Death is never an easy thing to deal with and you need to take as much time as you need to deal with it all ... and the same goes for your family.

                    My heart goes out to you and your family ... and you know we are ALL here for you, always.

                    #40 Spazz

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                      Posted 03 October 2008 - 02:15 PM

                      I am so sorry for your loss. There is no "right" decision and I cannot imagine having to make a decision like that. We're here for you no matter what you decide. You and your family are in my thoughts.

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